im 19 and recently started seein a 30 year old, i hav no prob with the 11 year age gap but my friends think its wrong. plz help! do u fink da age gap is too much?
2006-08-14 22:25:12 · 35 answers · asked by stac666 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look at some of the answers on here, some guys seem to be a bit immature, hence why woman tend to go out with older guys, as they know how to treat a woman, and have lived enough to decide what they do and don't want from a relationship.
I really wouldn't place importance on your ages! I started seeing a guy years ago, and we totally hit it off. I was 20 at the time, and guessed that he was in his late 20's from the fact he was a complete babe and looked quite young and from some on the things he said . How wrong was I?! As it turned out, he was 14 years older than me. However, but that time I found out, I had already decided he was the guy for me, and his age was not an issue at all. Four and a half years on, and we are still together. My friends and family have been completely behind us throughout, and I have never made a huge deal over our age gap, and everyone who knows us knows how happy we are together.
Your friends should be supportive no matter what. Their lack of support and understanding only shows how young and immature and possibly jealous they are. Try talking to them to make them understand how much their support means to you.
Good luck x
2006-08-14 22:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by hell_ova_arse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was nearly a, 16 year old going out with a 29 year old, when we first met we talked about Clingons in star trek I realised its the mental age that counts, there is something soothing about an older guy I lost my dad young and I do think there is a connection in wanting some one older and wiser to look after you, that’s y I didn’t go out with him I needed to grow up independent (any day now!) soz if that isn’t ur situation but I’m in a ranting mood today
2006-08-14 22:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're still a teenager, regardless if the law legally classifies you an adult. A person your age rarely have enough in common with a man who is already 30 years old. Men who choose to go out with someone your age, often are insecure in their manhood, and feel that they look better to someone who is way younger then themselves. because they feel it's easier to impress you, and there can be control issues as well. He probably feels that you are easier to control, because you are so young.
Stick to someone closer to your age, who's experiences are on par more with yours. You don't need to get into what is a potentially serious relationship. You still have sometime yet
This relationship has disaster written all over it, especially if you tie yourself down with marriage and children. Give yourself sometime to mature more, and do the things that teenagers like to do first, before prematurely cutting yourself off of these important growing years, which are also years of exploring what you really want out of life.
2006-08-14 22:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by virgiinia r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say no because I'm 38 and I dated two girls in there twenties. One was twenty five and the other was twenty three. Both times everyone was cool with it even the parents. For me it seems to work. I don't get caught up in that age thing and neither do a lot of my friends. Or these two girlfriends.
2006-08-14 22:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by lhm1968 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was seeing someone who was 10 years older than me when i was 20ish. At the time all my family and friends were against it but that made me want him more. He had already been married divorced and had 2 kids.
Eventually i came to realise how much he was controlling my life and how many sacrifices i had to make for him regarding his kids and his past.
I was so glad that i came out of that relationship 2 yrs later virtually unscathed, although with a heavy heart and alot more life experience.
If its just a casual thing great but dont get in too deep......
2006-08-14 22:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by EMA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age is just a number. If both of you are comfortable with each other, then what others think is not important. Try to explain to your friends how you feel and thank them for their concern but it would great if you could have their support because this is something that you feel is right for you in your life. Just remember to be as supportive to them when they do something that you don't agree with.
2006-08-14 22:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by snowfoxx71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to think it was a problem till i became in love with a 41 year old im by the way 28.age doesnt matter go girl sod what everyone else says they are more than likely jelous
2006-08-14 22:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I've always questioned 30-something men who go out with under-20s. I'm sure you are a lovely girl, and please don't take this as an insult, but you have to wonder why he wants to go out with someone so much younger than him. What on earth do you have in common to speak about? Why can't he be with someone his own age? It isn't quite right.
2006-08-14 22:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello, age iz jus a number rite? aslong as u r both happy then it dnt matter wot other ppl think, at the end of the day it's ur happiness that counts so i wud jus ignore them if i woz u, also i think ur friends shud b a bit more supportive of u xx
2006-08-15 01:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by charlotte b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY HUN!!!! when i was 20 i dated 46 yrs old and it was the best time of my life. i still really love him.
i am now married to 26 yr old and he bores me to death at times.
age doesn't matter as long as both parties are happy with it.
don't listen to your friends. they are worried about you so take that on board but do ehat your heart tells you to do.
2006-08-14 23:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by welshwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋