my boyfriend has never talked to his parents about girls.
he has had relations in the past but was not serious stuff now he's in love with me and so am i and we are committed.
he needs to tell his parents about me. but is facing a dilemma.
his parents prefer arranged marriage over love marriage any given day and since he has not spoken to them about any of his past relation and any gal in general so he is feeling a bit uncomfortable.
to make the matters worse he had been telling them that he wont marry anybody as he never wanted to till he met me.
kindly give realistic and sensible solution and don't answer if you just want 2 points.
we are from india.. both of us are adults n he's earning well. kindly tell us some hints tht he can give his parents.
2006-08-14 22:19:48 · 11 answers · asked by Me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
actualy,im not realy in favor of an arrange merriage...if he realy love someone he should have the courage to tell his parents about his love...parents canot force thier children to marry someone that they never meet or talk either...both of you is an adults now,you know already how to make decision for your self...just be true about how you feel and explain to them about it,i know they will understand it...just go for it guys,fight for your love!
2006-08-14 22:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by mrs_budd05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do your parents know? are they fine with it? ask them to approach his parents...
if there's no problem except for the fact that he feels awkward, then it really is no issue at all. he will have to overcome it and just break the news. maybe he should start off saying something like.... "i have been thinking about my future ... (and/or) my marriage"... let the conversation flow from there..
and i'm sure, because he's an adult, and because indian parents today are quite ready for the concept of love marriage (even if they prefer arranged)... there wont be a problem.. of course, they'll prefer arranged - but that doesn't mean love is a no-no... so give it a chance... you'll never know how simple it may be unless you speak out... i don't think there's any complication, just go ahead...
2006-08-14 22:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was sure you're from India as it's one of countries where arranged marriages are prefered to loves one. Frankly I know nobody to have gone for love one. If you belong to same caste, I suppose his parents would have nothing against their son getting married to you. If not, it's a problem. I'm not Indian, but my bf is and he told his parents he fell in love, that he won't love any other girl except me in his life and that he wants to marry me. They didn't care about his feelings and happiness. Indian parents care more about what relatives and neighbours say, that will be a shame to their family etc, they even threatened him, saying they will suicide, so I had no other option than telling him it's ok if he marries smb else, but it's not at all ok...Anyway, I can't do anything. But I hope your love story would be different as at least both of you are Indians. He should be really strong in his decisions, cause parents r really insisting a lot until they get what they want.
2006-08-14 22:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there is no easy answer to that. But he should tell his parents!
Let me tell you about a girl I knew. She loved a guy but didn't tell her mom. This went on for years. Finally she ended up in this arranged marriage with her cousin. And she still her her friend as a secret lover.
This might happen to you if you don't tell his and your parents. And if you are afraid of them ask yourself what they would do? Cast you out of the family? Could you live with that? Is your love so strong that it is the most important thing? Or will you rather wait another year or two and see if your love is worth the trouble?
My advise? Tell them. If they love their son they will go along.
2006-08-14 22:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by ak2005ok 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him ask his parents if they want his happiness...
then explain your situation... I think it might help him if you come with him. At least, you'd be showing that you really are serious with each other. Plus, you can help him out in case he weakens or something and changes his mind...
If you truly love each other, this will not be a hindrance.
Prep his parents up on how the world is changing and why the practices of the past may not be applicable anymore.
Good luck!
2006-08-14 22:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by sedatedeyes209 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a dilemma ... i think that he should just go and tell them ... i mean they can't take the lead of his love life ... but u should go with him to tell his parents ...
Tell them u 2 are in love ... what can they do ... i mean we are not in the middle-ages to have arranged marriages ... they don't have anything from him lovers anyway!!!!!!!
2006-08-14 22:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are always trouble between young couples. I know its the same with me. My advice to you- is to tell them what he feels for you. There is always a chance they will understand and agree.
If he's the love of your life, I would just ran away with him if they don't agree. But that's what i'll do, so you follow your heart sweety ;)
Best of luck
2006-08-14 22:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by stargirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to tell them the truth - its as simple as that - and the sooner the better. He needs them to understand that he loves you. Is there no way his parents would see you as a suitable match??
2006-08-14 22:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by kingpusskitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First he should tell his parents that he has a girlfriend and then after a while he should introduce you to them!
2006-08-14 22:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must tell them that he loves you and you have the advantage of earning a lot of money. if they don't understand that, he must move in with you. good luck!
2006-08-14 22:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by ♫Pavic♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋