ok, what should i do, everytime my girlfriend talks to her ex we fight, and it leads us to almost breaking up, we both dont want that, this only happens when her and her ex talk, he starts everything and makes crap up to make me angry so i'll break up with her or something, in which i wont do but I'm starting to not trust him talking to her in which means I dont trust her but I do trust her, I'm confused, someone help!?
2006-08-14 21:46:32 · 8 answers · asked by (`·–•²¡RèåÞèR²•–·´) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to have faith in her, you need to trust her and believe that it is you that she wants...He's obviously her ex for a reason...Let it go...put faith and trust in your relationship. Don't let this idiot ruin your relationship...
2006-08-14 21:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem here isn't so much what her ex says, but the fact that she believes him enough to ask you about it and start an argument.
You need to tell her "calmly" if she trusts you then she has no need to start any crap after talking to her ex, she should know by now that its all crap and her ex is saying it to break you up. If he's like that, ask her what kind of friend is he that she still talks to him? And on another level, why are they even discussing you?
Tell her, if she truely does not want to break up with you, then stop listening to her ex, if you break up, he wins, if you all ignore him, you both win. Don't let him get the better of you.
2006-08-15 04:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you say you trust her or him...sweetie you don't and it sounds like you shouldn't. If you have issues with her talking to the ex, tell her. I'm assuming you have and that starts a fight but why put yourself in the position? It also sound as if the ex is trying to get her back and if this is the case then make her feel as though she doesnt need him. Find out what they talk about. Get down to the nitty gritty!
2006-08-15 04:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, obviously some trust issues here. I think that if you and your girlfriend almost break up every time you fight, then it is time to get a new girlfriend, or to do something about her ex. Ask her to make it clear to her ex that he is an EX and that their relationship is OVER. Otherwise, dump her.
2006-08-15 04:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by trombonegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sometimes talking about the ex's doesn't make good..because for me talking about it means that you still have a feeling for the ex.wasn't able to clear things out and move on...
And if you dont want to end up your date fighting...just dont start the conversation with regards the ex's ...t.c.
CHANGE THE TOPIC....
2006-08-15 04:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by xrae12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a frank talk with your gf, who needs to break it off with her "ex," who ain't that ex. If she can have you both, she will. It is not that uncommon, I have had it happen, and she must choose, which she has not yet done. If she chooses him, you need to find a girl who is not still with her ex. Give her a time limit, and if she doesn't choose, she has chosen to see you leave.
2006-08-15 04:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by helixburger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered the question yourself: you're letting him make you angry. Somehow, I think that has a large part to do with why the fights start. Get it together man. Or if you can't deal, bail.
2006-08-15 04:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay your girl's ex is jealous(Jealous.Ones.Still.Envy).He may want your girl back.talk toy your girl and tell her or enlighten her about what all this is doing to you guys.See what you can come up with.You will manage to solve this if you both really care.Oh and give your girls's ex a serious man to man talk.
2006-08-15 04:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by ntaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋