Also what is a failproof way to ask to guarantee a date if there is such thing. After ages spent getting over a really long really heartbreaking relationship I finally like this guy at uni but I am WAY to nervous to approach him even if he does give off the friendly vibe...help!
2006-08-14 20:48:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Rejection is always a possibility, but you can't be afraid of it. Just get up the courage and ask him if you feel that's what you have to do. I would start by just making it casual though, "hey, do you want to do something this weekend"...that kind of thing. Don't make it seem like such a big deal. Then if he does go out with you, you can decide if there is a spark between you beyond friendship.
I have experience asking guys out. I've been rejected and I've been accepted. And honestly, rejection doesn't hurt as bad as you think. It just feels good to know one way or the other how he feels. It's much better to have tried than to have wondered what could have been. Guys...you could take a lesson in this too!
2006-08-14 20:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by intothelight 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
play it cool w/ her....if you dont know already females play games to see who you really are. She is most likely telling you this because she wants to see if you will get jealous. You have 5 options (well probaly more) here...1 dont talk to her anymore 2 tell her how you feel about it which could risk anything you have going now, because she will see your jealous and look insecure, but if she's going to be like that why stay around for the long run? 3 dont aknowledge she says it, when she mentions it change the subject like you didn't hear her or bring up a past subject. 4 aknowledge she did say it by agreeing w/ her and that you know how it feels to be constantly hit on (probally wont work since you didnt use it earlier) 5 advise her that her and those other guys would make a great couple, this shows her that you will be fine w/ out her and that you dont care as much....women are extremely attracted to guys who act this way....thats part of the reason women love bad guys, cuz the guy doesnt care!
2016-03-27 02:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
failproof way to ask --- show up naked! kidding!
nah... just be yourself, ask him if he can join you for coffee, if he said no then just walk away and it's easier to raise the middle finger. hehe
Some guys don't want to be asked. They want to make the first move. There are some guys who want the girls doing the "please go out with me" thing. You know better. If he's a nice guy, you won't be rejected badly. If he feels the same, he'll give it a shot. Good luck! :)
2006-08-14 21:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by поцелуй 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The old saying, "nothing ventured, nothing gained." If you don't try, you will never know, will you? To prepare for rejection, all you can do is ask yourself if the temporary embarassment of him saying no to you is worth the not knowing if he would have said yes! Maybe to guarantee a date, you could get tickets to a sporting event, if you can find out what sport he likes. Almost guaranteed he won't turn that date down!
2006-08-14 20:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by 420Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax! Just invite him in the most casual way. Lunch with friends is the most safest way to ask him out for a date. If he agrees, it will be easier to ask him for a dinner for 2 afterwards. If he turns you down, don't give up too easily. Next time you see him, invite him for a cup of soda at the nearest seven eleven.
2006-08-14 20:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by lette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can walk away with dignity by being casual. Asking a guy out on a date doesnt have to be a big deal. Just chat him up a bit and ask him out. If he rejects you then smile and say, "it was worth a shot, right?" or "well, thanks anyway". Or somethin like that. Say something cute and funny. Important thing is to smile and act unfazed.
2006-08-14 20:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why not just ask first if he would like to go for coffee sometime........If your enjoying yourself let him know because sometimes guy's don't know what a girl is thinking on a date...whether they are enjoying the date and enjoying his company.....So don't forget to compliment him on the date and who knows he may want to see you again and this time he'll ask you out ;-)
2006-08-14 20:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tigerlilly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blow him a kiss, and wink at him....if those dont work, then you got to talk to him and tell him that you like him and want to get to know him better, then he should take the lead...if not well you didn't ask him out, jus t told him that you liked him...so don't feel bad, and now u know what us guys go through all the time...itsucks huh.....
2006-08-14 20:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it easy. Ask him if he wants to go get a cup of coffee, and after that initial "taste", I am sure he will ask if you want to hang out some other time.
2006-08-14 20:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by Phaedrus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was a girl, I would be having fun with other girls and ignore the guy all together. :-D
Okay, just say you are going to the movies with bunch of other friends and ask him if he wants to join you.
2006-08-14 20:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by the enlighten one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋