I have a boyfriend and I love him very much but we have some issues only because he works alot and I don't get to see him as much as I would like too. The other guy is someone I have know from 9 years. I did love him at one point but I don't anymore. I loke being with him, like hanging out. I hung out with hime this weekend dinner and a movie and we ended up having sex (safe) although it was good, after I just wanted to go to sleep he was trying to cuddle and I just wanted to be left alone. I don't feel anything for him like love. Everyone I know that knows him thinks that we are supposed to get married one day. I know if I was with him I would have a great life, I love his family there are very much like my family but I just can't see myself marrying him he has already asked me once and I think that is why he is around again because he wants to marry me, he is 30 and I am 26. What should I do?? I do love my boyfriend and I know he is just trying to get his life together. real ans pls
2006-08-14 20:37:27 · 20 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You knew ... the problem is not with them ... the problem is with you ... you said the other one you don't love hime ... but it seem you very comfertable eith him and who is you loving is in work most of the time ... i understand now the other one gives you from his time and also asked you to marry him ... but who is you loving didn't .. you talked about famelies with the other one but who is you loving you don't ...
It's mean the other one is very mathing with you and your famelies and everything ... but you have not felings with him ... look to the subjet in deep ...see the feuture ... you life will be the same after marriage almost ... it will be as you love the first one and he is loving his work ... you will be very sad after short time ... but in the other face ... you have good feelings with your ( Fameliy friend ) but not love for the timebeen after marry hime and start fameliy creation you will start love hime maybe kids will make it easyer but you will get somthing very important ... you will be sure he is loving you ... and ear of you ... aslo he will give you a very wonderfull times during the yours life .... i think and you the only one can take dessition your friend is better for you ... give hime a chance ... try to look at hime by other way and watch your self ... and your feelins ... you will find it hanging by the time ... and in right time ... acept his proposal .... but if you start this .... you should stop the relation with this bessy man ... take your time ... and i hoop for you an wonderfull life with happyness ... sorry for my bad english but i hope you understood me.
2006-08-14 21:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mr.H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, having sex with him while you have a bf should tell you that you're not gonna have a great life with him. Because u just cheated on your bf, and he knew that u had a man but still screwed u anyway. That should tell you that both of you can cheat on each other. i am not sure if you are smart enough to see that picture, unless on a jerry springer show. But then i am not a judge.
2006-08-15 03:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just follow your heart. Which one do you love ? that's the answer. Everyone can say you should with this guy or that guy. But the truth is it's all depends on you. You run your life not them. They can say anything, but you know the truth which one is the guy you want to spent all your life with. I think you just have to look which one from this 2 guy that love you more too.
2006-08-15 03:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by v4nil7a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself one question...
If both are kidnapped, and the kidnapper is asking you to choose one to free and one to kill, which one you choose to free...?
I'm so sorry for the terrible question and example, but what I want to say is that if you don't imagine your life without your b/f whom you love, then don't be with the other guy at all... Think that you might be hurting the man you love... Do you really want to hurt him?
Please be loyal to only one man... This is for your own good at the end for not to loose them both...
2006-08-15 03:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by toon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do? That is what you need to do. Forget the rest. Forget the expectations of others. Do what you must do fro the sake of your own sanity. And, FYI, I don't think much of either situation. One is a workaholic, and the you don't love the other.
2006-08-15 03:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want to be with your boyfriend so much why you sleeping with your best guyfriend....you shouldnt lead your guy friend on if you dont want to have a serious relationship wit him...and about your boyfriend think about how you really feel bout him coz if you like/love him as much as you say you do why did you sleep wit your friend...You really need to think about what you really want...
2006-08-15 03:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by cutiestnowgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if your bf did that to you. you better let him know and soon, the longer you wait the worse he will feel. then you better be ready to let him be with someone else too. and I think that you love your bf enouogh to stay with him, the other guy is just your booty call guy, and you maybe should keep him around, just u cheated on your bf, and he may just leave you when he finds out.....
2006-08-15 03:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by wizzard 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should not be with both, jus follow you heart you cnt hv two men in ur life chose one and you shd tell your bf tha true then also talk to your friend and know where this friendship is goinging dnt hurt them because of your selfishness. do something right for all parties involved
2006-08-15 03:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by judy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
humm this is a tuffy... i would really recommend that you tell ur b/f wats up cause its not cool to leave stuff from him.. (being one myself) its obvious that you dont truly love ur b/f if ur having sex with another man.. Thats not what true love is all about.. i can see that u dont really care that much about his feelings either.. but u seem to care about the other guy.. if i was you i would follow your heart.. which dosent seem like its with either of these guys...
Good luck
2006-08-15 03:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by Juggernaut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to the man u love, things will be in place soon. the only thing that would ruin things is if he found out u have been sleepinng around....
Try to keep legs crossed....it wasnt worth it coz u dont luv the other guy n kind of sent him the wrong signal!
2006-08-15 03:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋