My 4 yr old son cant keep his hand off my "mama milk". I nursed him until he was 1.. he obviously thinks of it as comfort. but sometimes he just touches me (in public and at home) unconsciously and on purpose just to be naughty. We have told him to stop but I feel so mean when I move his hand away when it wanders while he is sleeping or something. He will even head butt me there. He is a wonderful cuddly boy but this is not cool. help?
2006-08-14 19:33:41 · 16 answers · asked by turtles 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You just gave to be persistent and move his Head/hand whenever he does it (whether it's conscious or unconsciously when he does it). Persistence is key. If you let him continue, he's gonna do it in an environment when it's really un-called for and you will be thoroughly embarrassed. Stop it before it gets too far.
Good Luck.
2006-08-14 19:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is doing it to show effection and he's bored. My 6 year old still does it<-----I think it is a middle child syndrom thing! Anyways, I spoke to his doctor about it and she said it is normal for some children especially boys to do this kind of thing. It's exploratory and you have something that is comforting to him soft, squishy and is his 24/7. My doctor suggest I get him a large pillow that is shaped like his favorite character. My son has three of them Blue clues, pokemon, and a frog. Which he carries around with him wherever he goes. He still touches me there sometimes but not as much. When he does this I explain to him that he cannot touch me there because I don't like it. This is a perfect oppurtunity to teach him to respect others feelings. I know it makes you sad, but be very firm in telling him to stop. I've even resulted in time out with mine. Good Luck to you!
2006-08-15 09:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by colleen3273 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is time to stop refering to your brest as mommy milk and explain to him that everybody has private parts and those are your breast and it is not right for him to touch you there, and explain to him that he also has private parts, ect. This is a great time to teach him the proper names for all body parts and what is correct and bad touches. He is going to start school and needs to know all of these names. If you don't make a big deal out of it he may also start to just lose intrest.
I nursed my daughter until she was 14 months old and went through some of the same things but explaining that they were not "toy's, food, ect." and that it hurt when she did these things, helped. Of course, she was older, just like your son. Good luck.
2006-08-15 02:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi At 4 years old you can speak with him and he should understand. Try saying mama milk is for babies... you are now a big goy and tell him how much you are enjoying his growing up... try a big boy day out with mom... and then keep up on telling him that it is not appropriate to touch mom there.
2006-08-15 09:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried sippy cups? When a child acts like he does he needs comfort. Explain to him that he is too old for beast milk. When he does touch you give him a hug & ask him what is wrong. Usually he might feel insecure or tired.
2006-08-15 02:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by pmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 4 year old daughter was the same way, I had to just keep explaining to her that she couldn't touch Mommy there, and moving her hand. She finally understood when I told her that those were private areas of my body and she was not allowed to touch me there.
2006-08-15 09:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My nephew used to do this to me. I'd tell him it is inappropriate and it is my private part. I told him proper names for inappropriate places and a good and bad touch to people. It helped a lot, if he ever squeezed my breast, I'd tell him, "Is that a good touch?" or "Is that where the bathing suit covers?" He stopped after a couple weeks of doing that. Just be consistent, tell him the inappropriate touching parts of a boy and girls' bodies and what they are called, and tell them a bad touch and good touch.
Good Luck.
2006-08-15 12:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by angel_hb09 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
but sometimes he just touches me (in public and at home) unconsciously and on purpose just to be naughty.......
wonder if that would work for me.
2006-08-15 02:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by andy3191 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be consistant. take his hand away and tell him no. give him a substitute such as a blankie or soft toy. if he is doing it to be naughty. warn him one time that he will go to time out. then do it.
2006-08-15 02:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by ariesokie55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know a friend with a dilemma just like yours. but she manage to stop her son as i advice her. do this...
while sleeping, try inserting a pillow between his arms and you.
let him sleep on his own, before you do this. the pillow should be big enough to distance his hands from your breast but not big enough to suffocate him. a comforter pillow (the long "hotdog" one) will do.
while at home and reading him a book, let him hold the book. just let him lean on you, with his head, and his hand on the book...
last, explain that the more he pinches or hold your breast, the more likely you might develop cancer, or an illness that would make you sick. convince him and show him pictures of ladies with breast removal operation or breast cancer victims. ask him if he wants you to be sickly like them....
this were the things i advice my friend. luckily, her son listened and has refrained in doing so with his habit... good luck....
2006-08-15 02:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by VeRDuGo 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋