I have a brother who likes to take Adderall. Does anyone notice anything wrong?

Question

Other than the fact that I went to college, got a degree, came home and he was sitting in the same place he was when I left. I am 22 and he is 25. Not to mention he still lives at home, and has the worst attitude towards my parents. They want to do whats right but come from abusive families and have dealt with many hardships to get where they are.
I understand that this drug can be helpful but when does it stop? My mom is nervous all the time, shaking, worrying about saying the wrong thing. (he is threatening, vocally) They have been very overprotective. My dad feels like a failure. I am uncomfortable most of the time. My mom says he reminds him of her father.
There is something wrong with my family and I hope it is not too late. His friends have access to Adderall, he used to get violent with me because I wouldn't call my friends that had it. He doesn't ask me anymore. I feel obligated to help my parents but still want to get on with my life. Families health or future for my kids?

Answer 1

You need to talk to a professional help. Have a session yourself and if the doctor feels that other members of your family could benefit then perhaps everyone can come in. However, you need to take care of yourself here. They are the adults, the parents, and should be able to handle things and with your brother. If they are going to allow your brother to sit on the couch and watch TV for the rest of his life, than you can't allow this to alter your life. As for any future with your own kids, you can talk with a professional to see how this could be handled differently with your own family if that is your concern. Remember, you need to take care of yourself and not get sucked into their problems. If no one has said so to you lately, congratulations on completing your degree! Figure out what you want to do with your life and move in that direction. That is wonderful you have shown concerned for your brother and your parents, but they have to want to change and do the work themselves. You don't do that part for them. You can arrange to get them help, but if they won't take it, you need to realize they are making their own choices and those choices do not have to involve you.

Answer 2

You shouldn't be asking this on YA.

You need to seek professional help.