Lisa hooked up me and my guy, but Lisa and I aren't really good friends, we just know each other. Lisa came to work and told me that she heard from Larry that me and my guy finally did the do. I am embarrassed that she know, but I'm not mad at him for telling Larry because I told one of my close friends...
Anyways, when I called my guy and asked did he tell Larry, he said no and then I said well how does Lisa know. My guy said he only told one friend and that person doesn't know Larry or Lisa. I kept pushing and he said, "oh maybe it was Larry I told and not my other friend." He's claiming that he can't remember which friend he told and I'm calling him a liar.
What do you think and how should I handle this?
Like I said, I'm not mad he told Larry, I'm mad that when I confronted him, he denied telling Larry and then magically remembered that it must have been Larry he told instead of his other friend.
2006-08-14 19:12:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're creating WAY too much drama. I know you had sex (you sound young so sex is new, fun and exciting) but for real it's not the end of world if ppl know you had sex with a dude you're seeing. Everyone does it....*shurg*
So what if he told Larry as you said Larry IS his friend and you told your friend too. It just happens Larry has girl that your acquainted with.....Larry's gonna tell his girl. EVERYONE tells there significant other secrets because you're suppose to be able to trust them. Obviously his girl isn't very trustworthy if she's spilling the beans. If anything Larry should be pissed off at her for opening her mouth when it wasn't her place too. Ya know.
Honestly, it sounds like she's trying to create some drama....don't play into her hands like that. Just be nonchalant about the whole thing....like I said its sex...everyone does it. Just be sure to use protection, 'K
2006-08-14 19:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change him. He just denied it was Larry at first because he thought you were going to be mad at him. Later, when he was cornered, he just said, oh, yeah, maybe I remembered wrong. I agree with you that it's crummy but the truth is that it's not uncommon behavior. The most important thing for you is to protect yourself from possible negative permanent consequences of having sex. Maybe you will want to consider waiting for a permanent and mature relationship. Just remember this guy does lie if it suits his purposes. Remember you cannot count on what he says when he tells you about his sexual history. Please protect yourself and remember that you really can't believe what a guy says especially when he has that goal in mind. People can be good at saying what you want to hear and you don't want false information to cost you your life. I know this isn't probably what you wanted to hear. I'm just saying lying is not uncommon and no matter who you are with you need to guard your health.
2006-08-14 19:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by friend 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kiss and tell is an old time standard "no no"... and your BF knows that it is. He's just a little embarassed, that's all. So, just let him in on the secret that you coughed up the facts about your mutual escapades to one of your friends, too - "no big deal" - and all should be well in the bedroom again.
I think that I'd tuck away the data about the lie he told... it may be his way of dealing with things, and that's not a good thing for you. Keep your eyes and ears open for more of it, but for the time being, give him some slack, hope for the best and keep your mouth shut.
((( r u randy? )))
2006-08-14 19:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He just thought you'd be mad if he were honest with you from the beginning. Honestly, I think you must have been a little upset with him for telling or else you wouldn't have called him on it in the first place. You must be questioning his honesty in other areas too if you have to test him.
I think I'd just tell him that I want honesty all the time and if he can't deliver it, then he's outta here!
2006-08-14 19:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jen B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then WHO CARES?!?!
Have sex with Lisa, and then tell Larry, and when your guy finds out, tell him you don't know who you told. It's more fun to go in reverse.
2006-08-14 19:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh your guy is just embarrassed babe. Don't get mad at him. He probably drooled all over you to his friend Larry and now you might know and he's all eeek she might find out how much I'm into her and stuff so just chill and take it as a compliment. You're good girl ...stay cool.
peace--- to the C double D
2006-08-14 19:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you got sexually involved with a liar. Do you associate with liars? Does he get another chance? You need to consider these questions. Sex is for mature adults, not gossipers. You deserve a man not a boy. Can your guy step up?
2006-08-14 19:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by jennifae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just forget about that. Too confusing...You say that you not mad, right ? so, don't make it a big deal. Just keep inside your head that your guy a liar. But then again who's not ?
2006-08-14 20:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by v4nil7a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He tired to lie and you caught him. He is just trying to get out of it. It is no big deal. Do you tell your friends you had sex with someone? He just did the same. Just forget about it. 1 million people are gonna know in a few minutes. lol.
2006-08-14 19:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by L F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have sex with Lisa
2006-08-14 19:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin Federline 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋