hi does any 1 have spanking strategies?

Question

my kids are horrible i have tried absolutely everything they just dont listen im going to start spanking

i have tried time outs grounding taking away items and privelages everything even yelling do i use something bare private what

Answer 1

I think You are making the right decision, just make sure it's the last resort

I define abuse as leaving permanent marks ( bruises, welts ) other then temporary redness I very strongly believe in spankings as a last resort. After warnings, time outs, loss of privileges, and our famous point chart. Needless to say there are some crimes that jump right to spankings, misbehaving in school, life threatening mistakes, or absolute direct defiance. They should be RARE, that being said they should be well remembered also. With us spankings are done in privet ( no one else should be punished by having to watch ) The child is told what is happening and why, they must repeat why so they understand and not do it again. Pants and underwear are taken down ( the loud slap noise and scare factor is worse the the actual spanking, also you know you are not leaving marks as long as your in control ) The child is then laid over the knee/lap and spanked with the hand ( I don't believe in using objects, but that's our opinion ).
In a nut shell that's it. I might add that if you don't think you have the temper to give a spanking with out losing control you SHOULD NOT SPANK.
Just my opinion, unlike others I know there is no sure fire "Right" way of parenting, Just try your best and love your kids.

Answer 2

Hold on sweetie. Before you go and start spanking, you do have some different options. Depending on their age, manipulation works wonders, and so do extra chores. If it's constant fighting, make them sit at the kitchen table and don't let them leave until they reach an agreement amongst themselves. If it's just sassiness, set some ground rules and stick to them. Kids usually act up when they know mom or dad is a push over. They are testing your limits and their boundries, don't give in.

I'm not saying this because I'm against spanking, I've done my fair share. I've read the bible, I know children need discipline. I also know that the fear of God does just as much as the fear of mom or dad. I'm just suggesting you try something else first. When you are at your witt's end, you'll spank out of frustration. And you'll probably be doing it more often than you ever thought possible...it's not going to teach them anything other than mom will hurt you. What happens when they are too old to be spanked? Chances are they are going to laugh at you. Take the high road and work on them from the inside out. Lay down the rules and the consequences if they break them. Give them choices, and when they've done wrong and completed their punishment, sit down with them and go over what they learned from it. Little by little, they'll start to get it. It just takes time and patience.

Answer 3

Yes as a matter of fact. Next time your kids make you crazy, go bang your head against the wall.
No child is horrible! Spanking is not the answer. If you've tried everything, Something should have worked - Keep trying!!!

Answer 4

You want to avoid that route. If you ever get divorced, you may not get custody of your children. Or someone could turn you into social services if your children tell other people.

Have you tried the advice given on the nanny television shows? Maybe you could have a friend come to the home and try to implement some of the ideas for you.

There are library books on how to get your child to behave. I'd also look at those.

You could also ask the school psychologist for some ideas. Tell the school that you don't want to land it with children that do not behave and you want to resolve this problem before it becomes theirs.

Perhaps you could hire an experienced day care worker who could sort out your children and pass good advice onto you. If you took them once per week, it might be less expensive than hiring a child psychologist.

Answer 5

To spank or not to spank when all else fails. I'm not against a child getting a swat in the backside to gain their attention afterall spare the rod spoil the child. The only problem happens when a swat turns into more than one or two as there is a difference between disapline and taking your frustration out on someones hide. of course you get the ones who do not have challenging little ones and voice the opinion of how wrong it is to even start but face it back in the day we got our fair share of spanks and I can say as far as me,my sisters and my sons we didn't turn out too bad. I say get their attention and then give them options.

Answer 6

I wouldn't spank. Start taking their toys away, or things they enjoy doing. Ask your husband or someone else to help you out. I seriously don't think spanking works. After you do it, you will probably feel horrible and want to make it up to them and then they go back to the same thing. Also, you have to think you don't want to get used to the spanking and then when you are really pissed - hit them too hard or injure them really bad. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Get them all into THERAPY!
It has done wonders with my 3 kids!

We are going through the Juvenile System here called to Choice Program.

There are other programs also. Child & Family Services offers them and so does your Local Mental Health Clinic.

It is well worth the time!

DON'T GIVE UP HOPE!

DON'T LET THEM OUT OF THERAPY EITHER! NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY OR DO!!!

STICK TO YOUR GUNS!!!

There are some good parenting classes too. Have to call around to various Social Service Organizations. Most are in the evenings with supper included!!! That's a plus here. No supper to plan, cook or pay for!

Answer 8

I whoop my kids when they are bad and then they listen. IF they continue to be disobedient, disruptive, disrespective and distructive. I whoop them, take away all their privledges and ground them for a time that I decide till I take them off. I have very strict rules and strict guidance in my home and me and my husband are on the same sheet of disappline. When one of us say no.. no means no.

Answer 9

Read the guidebook Israel vs Lebanon children

Answer 10

I would need a little more information to give you an accurate answer. Feel free to e-mail me ([e-mail]) if you want to discuss this.