Brothe-in-law and sister-in-law need some desperate help with parenting.?

Question

He's 35 and she's 20 going on 12. They are both from traumatic childhoods, he was molested in foster homes, and she never got passed the 8th grade. They had one son who passed away playing outside in the street when he was only 2. They have another son who just turned two and she's due to give birth at the end of this month. When they have the babies, they drop them off like dirty laundry to my house to take care of until someone calls social services and they leave the state. They are running from three states right now. I love my nephew dearly, but they aren't taking care of him. And recently my brother in law told me that his wife no longer wants to be a mom. We have five children, our oldest daughter is grown and we have four boys already to care for. However, I've been struggling with the idea of taking in my nephew and the new baby. They would, without a doubt be better off. My husband has a difference of opinion on this and we are butting heads. Help!

I should add that my husband loves the kids too and does his fair share to help, it's just that he doesn't want to start all over now that our kids are older and we can do more. My argument is that these little kids need us and have no one else, and it's our responsibility. I see his point, he sees mine, we know all the legalities involved, I'm just not sure what is best. Do we force them to be parents and insist they take a parenting class, or do we just take over like they want us to do?

Answer 1

I know it will be a great financial burden and with four of your own children still at home it will be physically taxing as well. But perhaps you can think of it as an investment in the future. By doing what you're doing, you'll be demonstrating not only to your brother-in-law's two children but to your own what true generosity and nobility of spirit are.
As for the mother of these two children, I hope someone forces her to seek advice on birth control unless she's willing to be a responsible parent.

Answer 2

i wound half to take them because i could not turn my back on them.think about it these kids have know one.and they need love.