i've been married for four years. however, back when we were dating something happened that never left my mind. we wern't exclusive yet, and i knew she was dating somebody else. i stopped by her dorm unexpectedly and her roomate let me in. i was making smalll talk with the roomate when i heard the bed start moving and all the sounds of passion. apparantly, the roomate didnt know the somebody else was over, and i had an awkward conversation about nothing while listening to the woman who is now my wife have sex with somebody else. the roomate didn't kick me out, but it got to be too weird and i left. i saw her later that night and either we both pretended that i knew nothing or the roomate never said anything. as crazy as it ought to make me - i constantly fantasize about those sounds. and i feel like a bizzaro for getting off on something that would make anyone else sick.
2006-08-14 18:58:38 · 8 answers · asked by w0t_b0t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not everything that feels good... IS good.
You must know that somethings we can not have in life even though we seem grown enough to get them. You must find the meaning of life as well as the roles of persons in yours. She is now YOUR wife and has a position in your life as well as you into hers. Your duty should be keeping her happy. I believe this fetish is a private personal feeling. Dont be selfish or chose to entertain a thought for a new happiness or ongoing "high". You know right from wrong and your morals balance any new evils that would exist. But how strong are they, and must your be reminded by others of them to conqueor self control from things that feel good. Everything that feels good isnt good. I suggest going as far as renting porn but leaving strangers and new fetishes out of it. I know you really like her and also voyeurism is exciting as hell, but play it safe as irregular habits lead to irregular relations. Share a common ground and understand each others expectations. Good luck and be good!
2006-08-14 19:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by carolinakres 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that uncommon... I think the word you're looking for is "cuckold", basically fantasizing about your wife being with another man, even though it may or may not piss you off to no end if it actually happened.
Roll with it. That's the beauty of a fantasy. If we acted out our every fantasy, everyone on earth would be screwed to death and/or in prison. And the poor farm animals...
SO in short, don't do anything, and don't worry about it. Unless you actually wanted to explore that lifestyle... which is always an option.
-Daniel
2006-08-15 02:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of men who did not stop these fantasies in their tracks, and went on to encourage their wives to be with someone else while they watched. They all seemed to be very miserable, unhappy, self-hating men. Whenever these thoughts start, you should train yourself to think of something else, anything else (something pleasant like flowers, pets, whatever, but nothing having to do with sex) . Eventually you can train your mind to stop having these thoughts. If you pursue sexual feelings like this, you will soon be walking down the road to unhappiness and probably divorce. You will probably end up hating yourself, too, because thoughts like this might turn you on, but they are not right.
2006-08-15 02:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by 420Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing how your sex life is, and how kinky you and the little woman get, my suggestion would be to casually mention to her that you wonder if she ever fantasized about a threesome. I don't think you're that bizzarro, although I'm sure all the "do rights" here will judge you. I think if you're not willing to discuss it with her, just keep it as a JO fantasy and have a little personal time!
2006-08-15 02:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think about it, it was like hearing a porn instead of watching one, and don't feel bad, if thats your thing, then thats your thing. No need to feel ashamed about it, hell, it could have been worse, what if you were one of those people who get off but petting a cat or something?
2006-08-15 02:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Wren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a very sick individual. get a divorce and think twice before you involve yourself with another person whom may suffer from your illness!!!
2006-08-15 02:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by mason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your wife what you can do to please her more so that your love making will produce those sounds. Leave out why you want to know.
2006-08-15 02:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY! Go with it! Maybe she'll be cool with it---you'll both be happy!
2006-08-15 02:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Roxy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋