how to? i like this girl so much.what i should do?

Question

i like this one girl so much.how to approach her? we've been friends nearly 3 years and this year i get to knew her better.what she likes/dislikes and everything.she's the most important inlife now.she's someone very special to me.

i have this problem with approaching.i had been turned down many times before so i'm facing problem such as "will she likes me as much i like her?","what if she has someone else?","what if she doesnt like me?","i am not that handsome,will she like me?" and so on...

the latest thing i did is delivered roses to her office using a delivery boy instead of myself.can someone give me pointers on what to do?

Answer 1

if ur friends that long.. u can just ask her who she likes or who she admires or something.. just act normal

Answer 2

I'm sorry to be the one that tells you this, but from what you've told us, you're probably stuck in "friends zone". Unfortunately there is no cure for "friends zone" and you'll likely be stuck there forever.

You have to ask yourself one question. Would you rather have this person as just a friend for the rest of your life, or would you rather try a romantic relationship with her, but if it didn't work out you'd never be able to be her friend again like you are now. Keep in mind that if you ask her out and she gives you the "Let's just be friends" speech, then thats it. You'll be finished with her.

So tread lightly. Always make her think that she likes you more than you like her. You really can never go wrong with that rule of thumb. If you let on that you like her more than she likes you, then it usually weirds the girl out and things get messy. You probably took a big hit by sending the flowers, it takes power away from you and gives it to her, which is a bad thing. So don't do anymore of this movie, fairytale type BS, cause it does NOT work until you already have a deep romantic relationship with the woman.

Good luck, and always remember that there are other fish in the sea. Even if you think someone is your soulmate, she's not. :)

Answer 3

You are not the only one in such a situation millions of young boys try to approach girls. Your situation is not different. As you have done with the rest i.e. letting them know than they turn you down should not be something you refer to. Just simply do the same let her know that you would like to be more than just friends with her and if she accepts you will never regret. On the other hand if she does not, think of it this way. At least you tried and now you know instead of thinking what the outcome would have been. Don't try to hard to impress you might come off like a stalker or a freak just keep things cool.
All the best.

Answer 4

Calm down. You sound like you are ready to burst into flames. :-)
Let's get back to basics. People who have been in long term successful relationships have had common interests. So, find something interesting you like to do, and invite her to do this activity with you. Such as going to a movie, to lunch, come over and play video games, etc. Be yourself. Don't just find out what she likes and do that just to get to know her, otherwise things will backfire on you and you will be unhappy. Also, presenting a false image is a bad idea. If she can't see through it, you are going to be uncomfortable and she will sense that.
Do NOT sit down and tell her how you feel about her just pouring your heart out. That's silly to do this, because you really don't know each other yet. Girls will tell you to do this, but it is some silly romanitic fantasy they have which when it sees the light of day doesn't work. Be friends first, very good friends.

Answer 5

I use to have an approaching problem also..... but u either get over it or never have a girlfreind..... ok. and if you really like this girl then go and see her with a dozen red long stemmed roses take it from someone that's experienced girl's & women love roses... So what are u waiting for man just do it !! and always think positive.

Answer 6

alrire man listen up, first of all u cant bring ur self down just be cause u got turned down from women. being turned down is a learning experience aite, so u know next time to do somethin diff so think of it that way coo? ok its cool u guys have known each other for a while thats really good! if i was you ask her out to dinner and just be forward with her and speak whats on ur mind! make sure you do it in person and not like over the phone or online or somethin, this is somethin u really want go for it man!!best of luckk!

Answer 7

I saw you're pic and everything.. I know it's small, but both you and I know that you're not the best looking kid, but it's not a big deal. Just make up for it with confidence. Also, dress nicely. Try not be another thug in the ghetto, at least act like you're trying to move crack out the ghetto.

Answer 8

well mayb u should jus go 2 her and go slow.ask her wat if a person tht she has known for a long tyme started lyking her....wat would she do?? if she says the negitive..back away but if she says tht she would go 4 it then tell her tht you are the person you were tlking about...if she still feels the same way then get deeper into it but if she dont then try 2 stay being her best friend bc @ the tyme mayb thts wat she needs. and mayb in the long run she will relise tht you are ther 4 her even after she passed you down and she mite have 2nd thoughts bout you....think about it... :)

Answer 9

you can approach her and let her know.if she means alot to you get on it.You can ask if she would like to go out to a movie or dinner,out for coffee etc...Then tell her how you would like to be more then friends.If you have your own style in doing it give it a try

Answer 10

Ask her out. Start slowly from friendship and maybe that can develop into something else. Don't pressure her though.

Answer 11

Your doing everything good,you might have her thinking already as to who you are just one day put your name on the card,you might be rewarded.don't ever be afraid to take chances, thats what life is all about taking chances and living life!!!!!!