how can i get my dad to play attention to me?

Question

my parents got divorced when i was about 2 and my dad pretty much wants nothing to do with me but i want him in my life we live in the same town but he never talks to me

my stepmother spends more time with me then he does

Answer 1

Run around naked since he lives right next door to you that get his attention lol j/p marcy =p

Answer 2

Hey there.

I have had pretty much the same experience, although my Dad moved overseas which made things harder. I found strarting up an on-line relationship with him, via emails, helped bring us closer together. We now send each other photos and catch up on what's happening in each other's lives. It's not quite the same as having him around in person, but at least we have the lines of communication open. Maybe try to keep emailing him updates on what's happening in your life so he gets to know you and can feel involved, even from a distance. Maybe this could lead to him wanting to see you in person more after a time. Even if he doesn't reply to you initially, keep perservering and maybe someday he'll start writing back. If you can make yourself present in his life on a regular basis like this (maybe write once a month) he may feel inclined to reach out at some stage?

I hadn't seen my dad for 7 years, but after all those years of writing to each other I was pleasantly surprised when he showed up at my wedding.

I had alot of anger towards my stepmother for taking my Dad's attention from me too. Try not to let it get in the way of you developing a relationship with your Dad. She probably feels similar feelings to you too.

Split families do suck, but I've found that if you look forward rather than backwards, you can start to build a new relationship from scratch, rather than dwelling on things that have happened in the past.

Good luck with it. I hope you can work it out in time - keep at it. :)

Answer 3

Sit down and talk to him when you are over there. Tell him you feel it's important for him to be involved in your life. You would like to have him around for help in all the daddy things in life. If that doesn't seem to work then feel free to write me via email on this site, I have 3 girls, one 14, one 13 and one 15months. The 14 & 13 year olds friends who have seperated parents and 2 whos dads have passed away all call me "Daddy" that's even where the handle here comes from, I'm 6'2" and 250lbs. But try talking to him and let him know how you feel, feel about him and that you want him in your life.

Answer 4

Perhaps your dad feels guilty about the divorce, and to avoid dealing with his own feelings of inadequacy, he's avoiding bonding with you because it may be painful for him. I am not saying that his ignoring you is okay by any means. It sounds to me like he is self absorbed right now.

You cannot force someone to grow.

Different people grow to different stages at different ages.

Tell your father that you want to have a relationship with him. Tell him you want to go and do fun things together, to spend time getting to know one another and bond. If he is not receptive, the best thing you can do for your own health is to forgive the man for his ignorance. You're not forgiving him to do him any favors, rather you are forgiving him to release yourself from any feelings of anger or hatred that might arise after such a rejection. Just remember, your dad is just a man, with his own flaws and weaknesses. I hope the best for you!

Answer 5

The important thing for you to realise is that your Dad's behaviour is all about him not about you. He is reacting to his own baggage. He might not be able to cope with the pressure of responsibilities or see you as a link to his failed marriage. or a thousand other reasons. More likely he doesn't know how to interact with you. Please don't try to attract his attention by bad behaviour or appearing needy. Many men feel helpless or threatened by either. Be yourself, love yourself, love him.

Answer 6

if you and your stepmom are close--i don't know how close you are--then talk to your stepmom about it and ask her to help you. your father may just be avoiding you because he feels guilty for what he did. ask your stepmom why your dad is avoiding you and what can you do to get him to like being around you? your stepmom might try to help out, if not, then just ask your father why he's avoiding you and what can you do to make him want to be around you. hope this helps!

Answer 7

A: mmm. sorry to hear that. (Thought I had an idea.) ... See if you can find someone he respects and talk to them about it.

B: Be thankful to have a decent step-parent.