I LOVE my current boyfriend with all my heart. He is working out of the country. He sends me the most beautiful letters. But its been 6 months. He can call free, but he calls once every 2 days. He checks his email throughout the day and emails maybe once a week. He will be in country next month on R&R. He is a workaholic. My ex makes me laugh and daily tells me he wants me. I have been advoiding sex with him, because I love my boyfriend. But I do long for someone to act like they want me and I want the companionship and yes the great sex. My boyfriend was ok in bed. Help
2006-08-14 18:50:36 · 32 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My ex is away in Iraq. He is just kinda short and to the point when he calls, like he feels like he is calling because he has to.
2006-08-14 19:00:36 · update #1
I mean my current boyfriend is in Iraq
2006-08-14 19:02:12 · update #2
If you really, with all your heart, love your current bf, then you should know the answer to that. And if he is overseas serving his country, you would NOT want to disrespect him that way. What happens if he gets hurt or killed over there? You would feel like crap dishonoring him like that. Don't do that to yourself. Honor him and yourself by waiting, please.
I know from experience that it hurts BADLY to have your loved one cheat on you while you are over in a hostile country serving your own country. It's worse than JUST cheating.
2006-08-14 18:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by RangerBob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 18:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my dear sister, i understand how u feel
u felt lonely even u have a bf and sometimes u felt like u dun have a bf than u have one. and when ur ex is showering u with attention and stuffs like that, you cannot help but ask yourself sometimes what would have happened is you guys are still together. I TOTALLY understand that. but the fact is, you have already have a new bf and u do love ur new bf a lot.
he's always away and busy, well he don't wnat to do that intentionally would he, who would want to eb away from their other half. Have u thought of the reason he's being so workaholic? perhaps he wanan keep more money and have a brighter future with you.
BUT i understand u cannot help feeling kept aside and lonely inside and u do have physical needs. well then i guess u have to talk to ur bf about it and see what u guys can do to solve this. perhaps meetup twice a month and tell him how much u love his call and letters and would really appreciate and love if it's on daily basis so u cannot stop thinking bout him (this strategy will melt his heart without being too obvious :) )
and bout ur ex, well u gotta let bygone be gone..there must be a reason u guys are history. so, dun let impulsiveness overcome rationality. it's not worth it. totally not.
2006-08-14 19:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by Autumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely LOVE your current boyfriend with all your heart......
why are you considering sex with the ex?????
Maybe you only CARE for your current boyfriend with all of your heart
I have been waiting to find a woman and I have not know a woman for 8 years........ :-(
All I'm sayin is 6 months wow common you can wait
masterbation is the next best thing
I bet if you search your heart, you will decide the best way to resolve this problem your having.....
If you decide to go back with your ex.........................
you will feel better if you break it off with your current boyfriend BEFORE sleepin with your ex
would you wanna be with your current thinkin or wondering if he was faithful????
Good Luck
Use your heart take your time
2006-08-14 19:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by Larry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with who you really care for. But you need to put into perspective that your ex is an ex for a reason. Don't let yourself keep you from breaking up with your current boyfriend because you'll feel bad for him. If you truly aren't in love with him it's better to break it off sooner than later. Time will heal his heart.
2006-08-14 18:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by ladysaz2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex for a reaon, don't back track. You'll probably feel guilty and regret it. So nnnnooooooooooooo! Oh, and stop talking to your ex, what's the point. You're asking for trouble. Everybody's ex wants them, it the excitement of knowing you still have it. If you lose a good thing for an ex, believe me, you'll feel stupid. So once again, leave him alone. It's just disrespectful.
2006-08-14 18:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jazzybinature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had sex with the ex how do you get rid of him when the new bf comes back? The ex will think he has some kind of claim on you and will ruin everything with the new bf. Or he'll blackmail you for more sex. And how would you sleep at night with the guilt? Don't do it.....keep you pants on.
2006-08-14 18:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF your longing that bad for someone then don't just sleep with your ex, be with him and do the right thing by your BF and let him go. but beware, everybody wants to be wanted so just remember why he's your ex anyways. maybe you should get away from both of them and find something new.
2006-08-14 18:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. you're bound for one great trouble if you sleep with your ex. If you're bf isn't doing some extra effort to make your relationship work, TELL HIM! he must know he's being too lazy, and you're being put in a difficult situation. Thus he must give you the attention you need, or else...he will know what you mean.
2006-08-14 19:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said it yourself ... My Ex in Iraq...Just dump him and move on with your life .. you are already thinking about Cheating on the poor man defending this country with your ex..the ex is ur ex for a reason !!!!.. I'm disguested with you, who play with men like there playthings..Most women these days play with someones emotions.....And its True .. Nice guys finish last...I'm living proof
2006-08-14 20:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋