What should you do if you courted someone who dont want to have a lovers relationship but only friendship? I told her my feelings and she said that shes already comfortable with that kind of a relationship. That she doesnt want that to be ruined what do you think is the reason please help girls! By the way shes my classmate and she always makes my day happy one time that she got sick for the whole week that im the first person that she told me that she had a very high fever! I asked permissions to his brothers and they said yes that i could court there sister. Where both 3rd year highschool. What should I do?
2006-08-14 17:44:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she means that much to you, respect her wishes. I think when a person breaks down and confesses feelings to another they should follow this motto: Hope for the Best, Expect the worse. Try to prepare yourself for rejection. Don't set your sights on just one, graduation is in your very near future, and alot may change between now and then. If you plan on attending college, don't make ties that may not stand strong. Stay close with out strings attached, you two may need a 'true friend' to turn to in the future.
2006-08-14 17:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by MrsPTB4Life 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds weird, but a lot of times if someone has a friend they really care about they don't want to risk ruining a good friendship. Usually if you date someone and it doesn't work out between you, you end up hating each other. But on the other hand the best relationships comes from being friends first, and getting to know each other as friends before things get serious. Just hang in there she may come around, and it's not her brothers' business who she dates. That's what you should be asking her parents.
2006-08-15 00:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she says she is not ready then she is not ready as far as her brothers go it was nice that you thought of them but so that when things didn't work out they would come and beet you up for not asking them but i think you mabey should of asked her parents if you could take her out not her brothers and what is wrong with just being best friends some of my best friends in high school where boys she may feel like she is just one of the guys and if you can enjoy each other's company with out being in a relationship then that is the best kind trust if it was ment for you two to be in a commited relationship then it will happen just tell her that you will make a pack that if you both aren't married by the time you both reach the age say 50 that you will then get married so you don't have to be alone all your life good luck
2006-08-15 00:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by christy b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you both are comfortable with this relationship then keep it that way. No sense skrewing it up. Friendship lasts a lot longer than most lovers relationships.
When you find the right one for a more commited relationship you'll know it.
Good luck.
2006-08-15 00:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by rkd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are too young to have a serious relationship. With that said, you may just have to think about the fact that she's "just not that into you." If she liked you like that, she would have been more receptive to the proposal. Maybe she will come around. Just be her friend (if you can handle it) or stop the relationship. As wonderful as she is now, she hasn't really grown up, so you don't know if she'll stay that way.
2006-08-15 00:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by sillylittlemen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At this age girls don't really know what they want if she says she just wants the relationship that you guys have then leave it at that she is probably more worried about hanging out with her friends then being serious with anyone. If her brothers have approved of you then trust me it isn't like it has never came out of her mouth around them how she feels about you think about it, most brothers don't care who it is they don't want anyone around their sister so just give it time it may be you senior year before she desides to take it to another level also think about this at her age if she wasn't interested she would have let you known right up front girls that age are ready to have freedom from their parents and hang out with friend not bashful by any means so just give her time if you really like her and even if she talks to another guy not saying it is going to happen just let it go it won't be anything serious she may even be testing you so hang in there she will come around and try asking her to prom.Good Luck
2006-08-15 00:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by p-nut butter princess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The girl has told you the kind of relationship she wants to have with you. You cannot make someone love you. Be her friend but don't set yourself up to be hurt by pushing the romantic relationship. If you want a girlfriend, look somewhere else. There are a lot of girls in high school, I'm sure you can find one, take your time.
Good luck
2006-08-15 00:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that you should respect her decision. If she said she's comfortable with just being friends, then just leave it at that. Otherwise, it's true that pushing her to date you would only cause a strain with your relationship. Her brothers may be okay with you being her boyfriend but you have to remember that you are going out with her, not the brothers. I'm pretty sure you've tried your best, so try to move on. Good luck!
2006-08-15 00:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by kray_z_blu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's not ready for a relationship and you can't do anything about it but still be her friend and always be a shoulder to lean on.......you never know sometimes things turn around. But for now move on...o.k.....just think of it this way, it's her lost, your probably a really nice guy and she doesn't realize it......... hopefully this advice was good enough to get the 10 points, and help you... anyways take care/and good luck.
From: Lucky_Charm
2006-08-15 00:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by *♥*Lucky Charm*♥* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I have learned of these answers, I think she is just not into you man. She is comfortabel with the friendship and I think you need to move on, if it is meant to happen it will but later in life. Dont spend anymore time trying to court her if she has given you that answer. That answer is the let down easy answer, but guys dont really understand it too well because we are very hopefull
2006-08-15 00:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by niceguy4agze 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋