my family recently moved interstate and i asked my bf to come with us we r totally in love and he agreed to come we didnt have jobs so we r living with my parents but since hes an only child to his mum and he was only living with her she now hates me with a passion for taking her little boy away...shes also taking it out on him wat can i do to make her like us as a couple?
2006-08-14 17:40:45 · 20 answers · asked by marfa_333 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
LET HER KNOW THAT YOU LOVE HER SON JUST AS MUCH AS SHE DOES AND THAT YOU WANT WHATS BEST FOR HIM AS WELL. MAKE HER UNDERSTAND THAT HE IS HAPPY WITH YOU
2006-08-18 04:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. How old are you? You don't sound like you're in high school so I'm going to go with that assumption. Well I'd say how about both of you find a job, move somewhere inbetween your parents and his mother, and let eachother visit their parents. One day his mother is going to have to let go of her "little boy". Just make it gradual... don't slap her in the face with it. By the way it sounds, it looks like he's got a really possesive mother there, and the more and faster you take her "little boy" away from her the more angry and po'd she is going to be towards you, and she'll get more possesive... so be slow about it and don't just drag him away.. also if possible get your boyfriend to visit his mother regularly like every weekend.. IF possible.. or like every month.. or have a set date and stuff for it. Just make it stable, that way she won't feel so abandoned. Hope I've helped, and good luck.
God bless you, your boyfriend and his mother.. and your parents.
And God bless your relationship and should you always be in love and happy.
2006-08-15 00:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother-in-law is still like that and i've been married for 8 yrs. Most women have troubles with their boyfriend's mom or husband's mom. I have no clue to why they have to be so hateful and mean, but one reason i do know is that she is upset cause another woman as took her place in her son's life and she's not getting the attention anymore like she use to. I've tried everything; cooking, cleaning, and even sucking up to make her happy and trying to get her to like me. That doesn't work either most of the time. I've just learned to over look her. It's him that u love and are with, not her. And if he loves u back not being concerned about weather or not his mom hates u then u should not waste your time worrying about her. So devote your time to him, don't waste your time on a no win situation. Let time take it's course and if SHE wants to change that will be up to her, she's only hurting herself.
2006-08-15 01:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by Autumn E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in with her and you and your bf can sponge off of her instead of your parents. She'll be happier if you two sit around her house and watch TV and eat all of the food that she paid for. Tell her to buy you and your bf a car too, so that you two can go places. Make sure she keeps the gas tank full for you also. Tell her you two need your privacy too. You may need to tell her to leave the house occasionally in case you and the boyfriend are feeling romantic. Nice life.
2006-08-15 00:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohestly, you can't do anything but let your love between the two of you grow, cause its that love that will show the world, your families, his Mother. That her little baby isn't alittle boy anymore, but a grown man, whom may possible in the furture will marry you and she have to see this because will she really allow it to let this hard heart felling linger so long to where will she ever get to enjoy her grand kind, let alone her son and NEW daughter.
Be still, humble, pray, and most of all let know one interfear in your relationship. Let God be apart of it cause thats who will work everything out when all is said, and two can't do anything about it.
2006-08-15 00:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Divine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately this happens all the time with only children and their mothers, and it is usually by divorced mothers of sons. I don't think there is much you can do right at this point to make her like you, but in the future if you get married and show her that you are going to take care of her baby, then she could come around. mother in laws and daughter in laws fight over the guy all the time... Good Luck to you
2006-08-15 00:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's really up to him to deal with it. If he loves you, he will smooth it over with his mom. Yes, going over there may help, but if she doesn't like you, she won't eat it. He needs to let her know that he's an adult and he loves her, but it's time for him to start his own life. Unfortunately, you shouldn't do anything without him behind you (or in front of you) all the way.
2006-08-15 00:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by sillylittlemen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are consequences to all our decisions, and sometimes we just have to live with the decisions we make and let time take care of it. Remember the tortoise sees more of the road than the hare.
2006-08-15 00:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by VL MAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u hav done a wrong thing.. now u should ask ur bf to go back, both of u search 4 a job at the same place.. get married and stay 2gether wid his mum
2006-08-15 00:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to her and discuss with her that you could come to her but that would be an extra burden.If she agrees to accept you both ,then you better leave with her along with her son.
2006-08-15 00:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by khan a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live your own life not hers.... she should be happy that her son is happy and not living in the gutter somewhere, I would tell her to get a life and not to contact you both until she has gotton over the fact that her little boy is gone have a cry!!!!!
2006-08-15 01:13:58 · answer #11 · answered by sonia g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋