Potty training question again....................?

Question

My daughter is 19 months old and I have decided to hit this potty training head on. Today was the first day and it was a lot of tear (my daughter) and fustration (me). I know it isn't easy, but some advice?

I put the cloth training pants on her and after an hour she started pointing at her privates and saying "bee bee". She I helped her to the potty which only made her burst into tears. I got her giggling and playing while sitting on the potty and after about 20 minutes or so, nothing. I let her get up and put the pants back on her, she grabs a diaper and gives it to be and starts the pointing and "bee bee" again (I am assuming she can't say pee pee and is just saying bee bee). I tell her to come sit on the potty again and she runs for the door and squats, by the time I get to her (I was sitting on the floor to be at her level) it is already too late, she peed her pants and on the floor. My fiance just tells me to put her on the potty, she does a few drops

and I make a HUGE deal over it, she is NOT impressed.

We do a few more fights over the day and of course she is in a diaper when she went down for a nap.

It was just a rough first day and I know Rome wasn't build in a day. I just need some advice on how to make this more fun? I got her to tinkle a little later and she just got upset and started yelling "eeewww" (the same thing she says when I am changing a poopy diaper).

I am new at this, my fiance had two boys in a previous marrage, and what can I do to let my daughter understand that it is "okay" to pee in the potty???

Didn't think of the doll thing, she hasn't had a new toy in a few months anyway, Sounds like a good idea, I'll scout the toy stores for "potty baby" you know the ones that come with a potty.

I think if she can HOLD it for 20 minutes or MORE until a diaper is put on her, the she can hold it until she gets to the potty. I still like the doll idea to show her it is okay to pee in the potty, I think she thinks she can ONLY go in her diaper.

She has her own personal potty, the one that plays music when she goes. Elmo is another good idea, my daughter LOVES elmo, she has a doll bigger then her that sleeps in her crib with her everynight. The doll maybe cheaper, we have a tight budget. THANKS FOR THE ADVICE! NIght all!

Answer 1

Here it is- it has worked for my 2 kids,and others after I tell them........

1. get m and m's handy
2. get a small potty chair
3. get a couple books about potty
4. you need to be home for about 4-5 days straight
5. now you can start. let them run around bare-but
6. Set the timer for 1/2 hour. Tell him/her to sit on the potty for 5 min. (read them a book in the mean time if it's to long for them.) If they go, give lots and lots of praise!!! I mean go crazy!! Give them about 3 m and m's.
7. Set the timer for 1/2 hour
8. Avoid asking the question "you got to go potty?'
9. Timer goes off- ok! What does that mean junior? Time to go potty again he or she would say, or you say it if they don't
10. repeat process all day long. If they go # 2 in the potty, reward with a handful of m and m's. They are very colorful and kids love them!!

11. Praise praise praise. I do spank my kids for behavior problems such as lying, disobedience, and bad attitudes, but never for having an accident. If there is an accident, clean it up queitly, and don't say much at all. Remind them it's ok, but try to make it in the potty next time, or in your own words.

Good luck!!! Hope this helps you. My girl was potty-trained in two days with the method. Took my 2 1/2 year old son a week. Leave pull-ups on them at night just in case.
p.s. if this doen't work at all, try again in a few months.

Answer 2

Potty training takes a loooooong time and requires lots of patience. It took me about 2-3 months to completely potty train my daughter. Some people swear by diaper pants, but I found that they delayed the process. The only ones that were effective were the ones where they can feel the wetness...otherwise, it's the same as a diaper. It went much faster after I let her pick out her own panties and insisted she wear them. It's a lot more mess and work, but I guarantee you'll have more success. In the meantime, be patient. It won't happen overnight and everything you're doing is absolutely the right way to introduce it. And it may seem strange, but it also helps if you sit on her potty and show her how to do it. Sometimes they just wanna be like mommy.

And if she isn't getting it after a month, you should probably give it a rest for awhile and try again later. Just because we're ready to have them trained, doesn't mean they're ready.

Answer 3

I was clean by the time I was 11 months, and my daughter was clean at the same age. Based on that you are way on the late side. When the kids are older it's much tougher. You now have to break them of an established habit. If you start early enough, that'll be the only habit she will ever be into.
You'll have to anticipate when she may be ready to go and sit her on the pot. Be sure the pot is comfortable to sit on, nothing to cut into her behind, and don't let her get up until she has 'done' something.
Takes a her a little getting used to, but I promise it'll be a lot easier than if you wait until she is 2 or 3.
Based on some of the questions here, I have observed some mother's talking about how their 4 year old kids are still in diapers. Boggles my mind. I feel they haven't done a proper job as mothers.
The uncomfortable pot to sit on thing comes from my own memories. I liked a pot best that was made of glass and had a wide, flat rim.
Still remember also, going to the toilet the first few times. It seemed so big and was intimidating, but I felt pride in being able to manage it on my own. Still needed help with wiping... ;-)

Answer 4

If your thinking about getting a potty baby, try the Elmo one. All kids love Elmo. You should know that forcing her is only going to prolong things. I know this because I have just potty trained my 2nd child and waiting for the 3rd to go. I tried everything with my son, and nothing worked. So I just put on big boy undies, with his favorite cartoon man, spider-man, and told him that spider-man is going to be real upset if you pee or poop on him so don't do it. The first two weeks were very hard, but it finally worked. Just don't give in to her and put diapers back on her. But don't force. It will only happen when she is ready not you. My son had been using the big boy potty of and on for about two months before I took the diapers away completely. So let her come into the bathroom with you so she can see it's OK. Also try buying, if you haven't already, a potty seat that fits on to the toilet. She might be afraid of falling in. It will take time, but don't get frustrated and just relax. It will come in time. Good luck

Answer 5

She is still a bit young. Try letting her play with the idea if she goes yeah party time but otherwise she will go when she is ready. SCientifically, it has been proven that kids cant even feel they need to go until they are around 2 years....then its hit and miss, sometimes they feel it and sometimes not, that muscle isnt fully develpoed. Now, as a parent of 3....i wouldnt totally agree....all kids are different, but by my 3rd....i let it alone and he potty trained himself. HE just went in there and went. Not over night, but slowly...like one day he said "sammy go potty...see" and yep there it was.....few days later...."I big boy...no dippees", so he wore no diapers, had a few accidents that day, and the next and the next but within a week he was on his own. If only i did this with my daughters. Oh well....live and learn. Of course, all kids are different. Good luck with your little one....she will get eventually.

Answer 6

Just keep trying. It doesn't usually "click" with them right away. One tip for you. Get a doll that wets and demonstrate the doll peeing in the potty. Maybe seeing it will show her it's okay to go on the potty.

Answer 7

you could keep trying or you could wait a couple more months she will let you know when she is ready. My daughter was like that and she turned 2 two weeks ago and she has been potty trained for about 1 month

Answer 8

I had a hard time too. What did it for my little girl was being in preschool around everyone, and everyone else was pottying. Perhaps you should try letting her get around others who are potty trained. at 19 months many aren't poty trained. You might be a little over ambitious on this one... of course if you succeed you'll save lot on diapers. Good luck!!

Answer 9

shes 19 months old. are you kidding me? Give her 6 months at least. you are putting waaaaaaaaay too much pressure on a 19 month old. this doesnt have to happen NOW and most children cannot be trained that early. I have an 18 month old.. all we do now is identify body parts, know what the potty is, and sit on it occasionally . I dont expect him to do much now with it., but its good ot have him both "accustomed" to it and EXCITED about it. if it becomes something that makes them cry, you will still be potty training her at 5. should be fun, not pressure, especially that young!!!!!! Use a rewards system when you do try seriously btw.