I have a close friend that is 7 years older than me, and I am 18. I look up to her and I absolutely love to be around her because she is always positive and funny, and just a really cool person all together. We talk about every other day or so and I hang out at her house regularly b/c we enjoy being around each other. I just can't quit feeling like she may not like me anymore or that she is tired of me hangin around her. She never acts that way, but for some reason I seem to make myself believe that she doesnt like me very much and that i dont deserve to have as good a friend as she is.
2006-08-14 17:31:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You deserve to have very good friends. It is wise to hang around those you look up to and admire. Remember your associations say a lot about who you are and who you become. If you're so worried, let her know you feel like she is almost like a mentor to you and you really enjoy your friendship.
2006-08-14 17:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by jennifae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to feel that way since she is older than you. You see that she is wiser and knows more about the world from experience, making you seem more dependent on her than her to you. You should talk with her about your difference in age so that you could get this age difference and older=greater then you image out of the back of your head so that you could see yourself as an equal counterpart. Talk about if its weird that shes a little older and whether the age difference matters in your relationship. It might be weird and feel like it will mess up your relationship at first, but you need to address the problem before it detriments your relationship; Especially if its nagging you in the back of your head.
2006-08-14 17:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by dontlook123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You most likely are feeling insecure around her ....I had an older girlfriend and there were times I felt exactly the way you are and i felt it was because of our age differences at that time.. We lost contact with each other and I still think of her now and then, but I doubt if I find her...But, the point I'm trying to make is I pulled back from her because I felt unworthy...Don't give up, let your friend know how your feeling...She'll listen
2006-08-14 17:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hero worship? Initially the person is flattered, but after sometime gets tired once the person knows you better, and realizes that the fawner may not be as mature as the person, and so looses interest.
This makes the fawner want to get even closer to the hero(ine) who starts to move even further away.
I think you should stick to someone closer to your own age.
All the best!
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2006-08-16 02:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by Starreply 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a close friend that is good. Talk to her about your feelings. The biggest thing is to be able to talk about what is on each of your hearts and minds.
Another thing to take into consideration is "smothering". Friends need some space for themselves and others. If you "smother" your friend, then she may not want to see you as much.
2006-08-15 00:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is just an irrational fear of losing your friend. As she is older she may get married, start a job, or move off to college. She will always be your friend I am sure. Let her know how special yuu think she is. Do something nice for her tomorrow!
2006-08-14 17:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I'm the same way, and I'm quite a bit older than you! I get so down on myself that I wonder why anyone would want to be my friend. Talk to her about how you feel, and get her honest feedback. It will either confirm your suspicions, or put your mind at ease.
2006-08-14 17:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by Terisu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your having feelings like that and the bond is as close as you say- don't hold it in......first think about why you may be having these thoughts then talk to her- communication is very important in a friendship and miscommunication can ruin one ;)
2006-08-14 17:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by awwwnry1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 08:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has something happened to make you insecure about yourself? Who initiates the visits between you two? Is it always you? If it is, let your friend call once in awhile. If the contact is mutual, just relax and enjoy your friendship.
2006-08-14 17:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by highchaparral2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋