I have a best friend, and I think he likes me, but that's a whole different story. Well, my mom doesn't like him calling me because she doesn't believe we're "just friends". We are just friends, we're not going out. But since we don't see eachother till school starts, we've been talking on the phone more often. She has lied to him (and me) telling him that I'm not home, when I really am. And I get very upset. He, of course, notices it and it's so humiliating for me. I dont want him to stop calling because of her, because we're best friends and that wouldn't be fair. She always gets some excuse to use the phone while I'm talking to him, or she screams and yells at me, and he knows we're arguing about him. But how can I get my mom to undersand that we CAN be just friends if we want to? I don't want my friend to feel bad, but I've noticed that he does...what should I do about this situation?
2006-08-14 17:14:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-08-14 17:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh yes, hmm! Life is more meaningful and more fun when we feel accepted and heard. Approach your mom on a good day, say a day before pay day for her, when shes in a good frame of mind. Explain to her that you feel as if she's not hearing you or tell her that you feel as if what you think is not important to her, that she doesn't think your capable of choosing your own friends. Ask her what it is about your friend that she doesn't like? Ask her if she could minimize your friend's negative points and find his positive ones in order for her to see that maybe he's not all that bad.
May your mom just likes to be cued in to what your doing, and she is going about it the wrong way, so I believe a good talk with her about what's going on in your life is long over-due. Tell your mom that if we go through life looking for undesirable traits in other people, we will never develop good relationships and we will be very unhappy about life in general and besides we miss a lot if we don't look for the positive side in people. We can't change people and if we were to continue to look for the bad in people we generally find what were looking for!
Have that talk with your mom and the best to you.
2006-08-15 01:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop lying... you are lying to us and we dont know you....tell the truth to your mom.... yes you have a boyfriend. can you honestly say there arent any feelings. nothing may have happened and it may be an innocent relationship, maybe its just a potential boyfriend andyou like him. maybe you should be honest with your mom and sit down and have a heart to heart with her. You are obviously in your teens and this is the time these things happen. Be 100% honest with your mom and she will listen ... if she doesnt let her know that you dont want to have to hide things from her or start lying to her... tell her that you want to be honest and she should want you to... if she still doesnt get it then tell her that she is opening up a can of worms that no mother wants to open and that is a lying, deceiving daughter which can only lead to one thing - pregnancy
2006-08-15 00:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by angelnmuh 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start with communicationg honestly to your friend about your mom. Ask him what you should do to fix things with your mom. Maybe give it some time. If he is a true friend he will not be scared off by your mom. You may just have to wait until you are a bit older.
2006-08-15 00:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by ejg411 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age, and I mean no offense, but ask your Mom to let you ask him over, so that you can introduce them.
It might be worth a shot, maybe your Mom would like him. She could see for herself, that the two of you are friends.
2006-08-15 00:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a cell phone. Apologize to your friend for your nosy mother. Talk to your mom about your friendship, about your need for privacy and how rude she's being, and threaten to move out if she does not comply.
2006-08-15 00:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by dalgirl990 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to your mom explain that he's only your friend and be truthful with your mom at all times let her know the you want to come to her in the future however she has raised you to chose your own friends
2006-08-15 00:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by queen2be 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't want boys in your life , so you have to stand your ground , your mother cant pick your friends for you . mainly just try to maintain the friendship the best you can
2006-08-15 00:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get a mobile phone and you will be happy because nobody can tell you who can you talk with, hope it works bye
2006-08-15 00:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by EAPublicity 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell ur mom she needs to trust u.
2006-08-15 00:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by kimmy209 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom to back off.
2006-08-15 00:32:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋