Some relationship help please?

Question

First off, I want to apologize if this might seem to be a bit tedious.

Anyway, I was with this guy for a year, and we fought a lot, but we loved each other so much. After a year, I just realized that I'm not strong enough to be in this relationship. He went out with his friends a lot, and I would get jealous if there were girls there. I can't help it, I'm just a really jealous person. But anyway, I ended things because things were getting out of hand, and all the crying and the yelling was too much for me. But now, a few months later, I'm just plain confused. I still love him so much, and I want him back, but I don't want to go back to all that fighting and the jealousy. But I know that there will be no other guy out there that would love me as much as he did. What should I do?

Thank you so much.

Answer 1

Get professional help with your jealousy. There is no place in a loving relationship for this emotion. If you understand that the problem is yours and you are willing to get help, then contact him and tell him the situation. It may or may not be too late.

In either case learn to deal with your own insecurities or you will just have one bad relationship after another. If you can deal with this, you might be surprised at the number of men who will become interested.

Answer 2

First of all, there will be someone else that will love and cherish you much more than this fellow. Some may take longer to get over a guy. Stop all form of communications. Go out with your girlfriends, find a hobby. Don't go back to this ex of yours. You need to move on and always find someone better. Someone that will treat you with respect. Do you want a relationship where you're always fighting and yelling at each other? Probably not. Be strong. Every time you have the urge to think about him or call/email him, do something else. Maybe you just need a rebound guy. *wink* Hang in there.

Answer 3

First of all Breath in and out. Deep breaths. Now think about all of the bad things in your relationship with this man. Where the bad things caused by you mostly?? Now if they were you gotta fix this for this relationship and for future relationships. You have to stop the jealousy because you are selfconsious about your self. Dress up wear make up use proactive cleanser and get fit for you. All of this matters for your confidence and relatiosnhips or else you will always worry about some other girl. Work on you because its not him its you. Love who your are and embrace your self so you can be a better feeling and looking person inside and out. Then you will notice that you feel better and you can say who gives a dang about those other girls because he knows what he's got and thats you!
I don't mean to make him look like the good guy. I am just saying work on you for the next guy. you are all you got and you can't go trying to fix whats not yours anymore.

Answer 4

i know u want him to be perfect. but something you don't know about men. they rarely change. seriously. i was with a guy for a long time and things got good for a while and they went downhill again. it won't ever change. someone will love you maybe even more than he loved you. but when you have a history like yours, no matter what you try, the past will always come back. so save yourself and get over him and you will find a new guy.it is hard but it will be better in the long run.

Answer 5

There s 2 ways...Either you have to change (which ain't easy) and try not to be so jealous...get secure in your relationship start doing things that will entice him to want to be with you more than the guys...try taking interest in his interest...do suddle things like invite him and his buddies to a cookout...show them your one of the girls that can hang out and have fun...2nd...Talk to him...apologize for the jealousy but let him know that a soul mate comes first and that you just want to be with him...even if it s to go to a stock car race or golf or whatever... talk it out if he won't talk ditch him

Answer 6

You seem to have things very clearly... I know how you feel.... I've been in that kind of relationship, there is a saying "give time some time" Move on, go out with friends, start dating I know it's tough at first but you will soon get out of that misery you are in.
GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 7

Love is sweeter the second time around. I've been there, that's why I'm telling it to you. It ok to have what is rightfully yours.

The big question is, Is he still single?

If he is, go and grab him and if his not. You should wait for him. Remember that his not the only guy in this world. God has a wonderful plan for you. Trust him, its worthit.

Answer 8

You know for a fact that there is NO ONE else out there for you??? How do you know that?? I used to think the same thing about my ex husband. In fact i sat around waiting for him for 2 years and during that time i happened to meet someone who actually RESPECTED me.
I am positive you will find someone too.

Answer 9

Give it some time, perhaps meet someone else. Explore other avenues, you have your whole life ahead of you, take your time. And if that doesn't work, try just being friends first this time around.

Answer 10

life's not suppose to be what you went through. you got what he needs.. he's got your number.. just don't give it out as much as you did... bucks will fight for the doe that runs the most... he'll leave the easy ones in one place, and chase the one that got away to the ends of the earth.. believe me.. i was one of them fools when i was younger..