If you have a couple of minutes, would you help me with this?

Question

First off, I want to apologize if this might seem to be a bit tedious.

Anyway, I was with this guy for a year, and we fought a lot, but we loved each other so much. After a year, I just realized that I'm not strong enough to be in this relationship. He went out with his friends a lot, and I would get jealous if there were girls there. I can't help it, I'm just a really jealous person. But anyway, I ended things because things were getting out of hand, and all the crying and the yelling was too much for me. But now, a few months later, I'm just plain confused. I still love him so much, and I want him back, but I don't want to go back to all that fighting and the jealousy. But I know that there will be no other guy out there that would love me as much as he did. What should I do?

Thank you so much.

Answer 1

There will be another guy that will love you and will love you for who you are and not yell or fight. There is no reason to be in an abusive relationship. Its time to get back out there and look for someone else.

Answer 2

Please listen when I tell you this and take it to heart, because I was you 18 yrs ago!!! The relationship I was in sounds identical as what you are describing, however, I did go back and the arguing, yelling and jealousy got worse and the total lack of respect for one another just turned into bigger arguments and even escalated to physical fighting. We broke up after 3years and I gave up all my friends because I wanted to make him happy. Then at 20, I met my present husband and we made a pact which is that 100% (NO matter how upset we may be) we respect each other and you know something? It works!!!! When I look back now, I cant believe I wasted so much time with such a looooossser!!! PS : I'm 37 now and really still in love!!!!!

Answer 3

Stay the course. Do not go back to this man. You gave it a good attempt and you decided that he is not the right man for you. You say "there will be no other guy out there that would love me as much as he did." That is baloney. There is a man out there who will love you MORE. I was in a 6 year relationship when Debbie left me after having an affair with her boss of all people. I STILL tried to put it back together because I believed, like you, that there was no one out there who would understand and love me as much. Well, I met Pam and I am very happy and I am very loved. The point is, there is a man out there who you will fall in love with and you will wonder what were you thinking about with this current guy. The problem is you just can't see it yet because your heart is broken. My advice is to stay away from this guy and when you begin to feel better (it may take some time) start dating casually until you stumble upon Mr. Right. Trust me. It will happen for you. :)

Answer 4

you should probably try to figure out what it is about urself that makes you so jealous all the time first because the guy should be allowed to be out with his friends even if there is girls around. it's called trust. as far as fighting goes that's usually normal, so long as you guys make up and nobody holds a grudge. if you really want him back you should talk to him about the fighting and see if you can come to some sort of understanding. and also theres too many people in the world to say that there's NOBODY else who will love you as much as he did. u'll always find someone who's better than the last guy. just keep looking. anyway hope that helped and good luck. : )

Answer 5

u can always put out ur feelings to him right ? if u are not able to tell it to him straight write it in a letter and giive it to him. be very polite. a person with a soft heart can and willl win. he loves ya more than any one so may be he expects u to go him again. tell him how much u love him and thats y u feel j of other girls who hang out with him. tell him wat u feel how u feel and that hurts u very much. if this doesnt work out, dont tell him anything he will realise one day and come to u. fights like this happens everyday only if the problem aint solved. first find where the problem arises and who is the root cause. then everything will be alright.
remember girl, he should be only yours. never ever sacrifice your love. or lose him in your life. you deserve him. you have the spirit. come on you can do anything to get him back. he is yours !!! don let him move away from u ! all the best ! :)

Answer 6

You really are too much first of all you need to spread your wings a little cause this fella is not going to change and you will not either the solution would be to get into a big group and spread yourself around dont go out with the same person all the time get a couple of new beaus and do a bit of dating and then if you still feel the same which I doubt you will. as it will take time to get over this one anyways

Answer 7

get real if he hurt u before y go back? he will then think it was ok to do the things that broke u 2 up the 1st time, there is someone out there for u just wait mr.right will come, do not settle for less ur better than that. dont u deserve to be with some one that treat u right and not hang out all the time especially wiht other women, thats not love ur looking for love in all the wrong places. be patient god has that man for u just hold on. raise ur standards and love yourself. try uplifting yourself by visting this site good luck

Answer 8

Even though it feels like no one else will love you. They will. Give it time. Stay away from him. He wasn't good for you. A relationship does not have to be fighting and jealousy. One more thing, I think you should try to let go some of that jealousy. It just wastes a lot of energy. Trust me, I have been there. Follow your instincts, and you'll be fine.

Answer 9

You need to think about the sacrifices you are willing to make to be happy. If being in that relationship again is what you need to be happy again, then you need to realize that you will have to sacrifice some time with him, so that he can hang out with friends. If this guy decides that he would also like to get back together with you then he will have to sacrifice some things too.... relationships involve love, attention, patience, communication, and sacrifice. Best of luck!
~God bless

Answer 10

i had the exact same problem. It all depends on how much you love him. If you really think there's no one out there for you try to get back with him. All the fighting and crying is all part of being in a relationship, and its gonna happen no matter what guy ur with. Its all up to you! good luck.