Why can't I find a good man?

Question

Ok, I don't do the bar scene, there are no singles at my church, and I work in the mall managing a sports memorabilia store.

Answer 1

cuz they're either taken... or gay

=(

Answer 2

Can you hold and keep a good man if you ever found one? Where you lookin 4 one? What qualities for you defines a good man? They don't just fall from heaven and you find em' in a bar or pub. Many places will hold good, single, unattached blokes, you just gotta figure where ya self like we all did. What hobby or interests do you have? Maybe take a class. Pentecostal church groups have good quallity men, with a bit of life in em'. Country fetes, festivals and the like you'll find some good'uns there too. There you go that's a start for you. All the best! When you get a good one look after him.

Answer 3

Your answer really depends on your definition of "good". It would be easy to give you some down hearted off handed sarcastic answer but that wouldn't help you or anyone else looking for the answer either. :)

First of all "good". Ask yourself what a good man is. Is he the guy who is handsome, rich and willing to treat you like a princess at your beck and call? Is he the guy who knows how to excite you by his killer smile and charm? Whatever it is, people generally find themselves with people who have a like mind and about the same rating of looks. This varies with the personalities of the individuals.

Further when we ask ourselves this kind of question we must notice the things around us and how we react to them. Are you an overly shy person? What would you do if someone approached you in a social gathering? How would you let him know that you're interested? You may wish to get some second opinions from your friends who have successful relationships.

When you got those figured, ask yourself about the quality of person that you are. Be honest but not cruel and I'm not just talking looks. Is your personality bright, and cheerful or is it relaxed and witty, etc? If you're dull then that could be a great reason there. If someone is boring, why the hell would someone be dating them? Some shoot for less but why?

I've been told when you're looking for " IT" you can't get " IT " but when you're not, " IT " happens. I don't believe that entirely though some truth does exist. This proverb comes from the idea of when you're comfortable with yourself then you will feel at ease with the person that you're attracted to. From there on begin the seduction ritual and you'll find him.

Hope this helps.... So on a scale of 1-10 what do you got besides your looks? ;)

Answer 4

Well' I have asked the same question after a near death experience with an Ex boyfriend but its all on how you view your
self.If you don't respect your self or down your self guys can see You deserve the best and only the best when it comes to a guy.Get a piece of paper and write down everything that you loved about your ex or exes and after your done compare it to the
next guy you date but if he does not fit it ditch him. You can even put in what you want him to be like. It worked for me I have been married now for 5 years and life is heaven and after my last Ex I said I would never trust or even dare get married I was not going to be owned in no way. Have faith and listen to your heart I'm 25 yrs old and I know how hard it is to find the right guy.

Answer 5

Because there is no need to buy the cow when you can milk it without buying and way too many women are giving men sex-regardless of how they are treated so men have lowered the standard of how they need to treat women. Only a guy that really loves you will put up with the rigors of a traditional courtship which I assume is what you mean by a good man(one that courts you properly) . The "rules" may be gamey but they help to screen men that will court you in a traditional way from those that are accostumed to women courting them or putting up with anything for the sheer glory of being involved with them. While I wouldn't go timing calls, it is good advise to wait for them to call you and let them pursue you. Men treat you better when they "earn" your company and attention.

Answer 6

There's good guys out there, but first you need to consider your previous dating patterns. Some girls just attract certain types of guys, through their personality traits, mannerisms, etc. Assholes don't like assertive women. This is probably why I've been fortunate to not have had any really nightmarish relationships.

Sometimes it's also who is accessible to you. If the dating pool amongst your friends sucks, then consider a personals service. They're more popular than ever before, because it gives you a better chance of meeting someone you're compatible with.

Answer 7

We are here, you can find us you can have us. We live in a society that unfortunately has a narrow view on what a good man or woman should be, often centering on the visual before the quality of the personality. When you meet a guy and talk to him, close your eyes and listen to what he's saying and how he says it, then think about want and need, is this someone you want in your life or is this the person that fills you up and makes you smile with every thought of them, in short; is this the person you need in your life.

Answer 8

I don't know where you're lookin', but if it's in a bar your chances of finding a good one there are considerably smaller than in a church. The reason I say that is that higher quality men frequent churches as opposed to bars. It's all a matter of "diggin' in the right spot".

Answer 9

Please don't turn gay and keep trying dont have sex too soon and have personality and try new things have fun and stop worring

Go to church. You may find a good man in the club but if you found him there 9 out of 10 you will find him there when things are going to bad. Look for men who are by their self in public. Now about your soul mate, only god knows who that is and if you pray and go out and have fun and don't stay in the house alot on weekends then you may just run into him. Ask trustful friends to hook you up with a sensible man. Look nice and have conversation stay fit and be confident in you and don't be a weak woman. Stand up for you and who you are and want to be someday

Answer 10

if you want to find a good man do what the blind do go for the personality and not the looks. too many people are drawn in by the looks first. that is mother natures way of making us miserable. give the geek or not the not so hot guys a chance you may find they very good people.

Answer 11

First you need to define what you mean by "good" . . . as part of that definition you should consider what they are good for . . . ? Why are you wanting to find a guy? Perhaps you should take the pressure off and spend some time enjoying being single and working on making yourself the best person you can be, for you and for your future beau . . . before you realize it, I think he'll be finding you . . . !