I found out a couple months back that my dad has cancer (my parents r divorced). he had surgery and i went to see him at the hospital but now he's feeling a little better although he gets sick a lot. he wants to come over my house tomorrow morning to see me. but it will be so weird to see him because i think he lost a lot of weight and he'll look differnt and act differnt-he's always been goofy but i dont know if this has changed him. I really want to see him too, but i'm sort of nervous. what could i be nervous about?
2006-08-14 16:56:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
See your dad and don't be nervous. He needs lots of love and support right now. And you will never regret being the one to give him that extra love and support. If he has lost a lot of weight and looks different, just remember that he is still your dad. He may have changed on the outside from this awful thing, but on the inside he is still the same. He may get very tired and may not all ways feel like visiting, so take advantage of him wanting to come to see you now. Good luck
2006-08-14 18:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by grandmaL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend that was in a motorcycle accident. His face was all busted up and he had to have a lot of surgeries. I was nervous about meeting him after that, too. He did look different and for the first three minutes, I wondered if I would ever get used to it.
After the fifth minute, we were laughing and joking like the old days and I realized he is the same person he always was.
Just think, too: your Dad is just as nervous as you are, if not more. What if she thinks I look like a freak? What if she won't love me any more? What if I am too hideous? The best thing to do is relax and after five minutes, you guys will be being goofy just like the old days.
Best of luck to you!
2006-08-15 00:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are nervous about hurting him. He may be feeling better, but if he's lost a lot of weight you might see him as more "fragile". He's still the same person, he might be weaker in body but inside he's still the same. I'm sure he'll be goofy, but he might get more tired easier. I think this is probably common to think this way. If it persists, then try seeing a counselor. Good luck!
2006-08-15 00:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Heart :
Let your insecurity where it belongs. Leave it behind. You want to see your Dad and he wants to see you, so please give each other quality time together. I promise you that you will never regret it! Moments like this lasts for a life time. Do not be nervous. Just be the loving daughter you are and let him appreciate the wonderful daughter he has and you will not even think about how different he looks. See him with your heart's eyes. You two will have the most happy moment.
LOVE AND PEACE TO BOTH OF YOU.
2006-08-15 00:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is understandable, you have all right to be nervous. you remember seeing your dad as he was the way before he got sick so to have to see him under weight and sick is a shock to you. just remember when your with him that he is the same person but only stronger. he's a tough person to be having cancer and surviving it. as your talking to him, try to remain calm and act yourself cause you don't want him to start feeling that you have changed as a person just because he got sick. this cancer isn't your dads fault so don't treat him any different than you have your whole life. he will be so happy to see you that it will make his day complete. try not to be nervous even though im sure you will... just be happy to be able to have another look, hug, and kiss with your great father.
i will pray for you and your dad!
2006-08-15 00:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by If u were wondering, It's me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur nervous cause u know ur dad is or was in pain. the thought of loosing him frighten u. just think if he passed away right now how would u feel that u did not spend that precious time with him/ that is ur dad no matter what. he help give u life help him feel better about his illness be that daughter that he can lean on u never know it might help him to heal. hes been through enough he do not need u to turn ur back on the only daddy u have here on earth. he would do it for u without thinking twice about it. my prayers goese out to ur entire family
2006-08-15 00:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by 1plum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of the fact that you went to not only see your dad, but spend time with him, you'll appreciate those moments more than anything else. Failure to do this will eat on you forever. Do what you know is right and remember, "It's not all about us, it's all about them." Always remember that, and you'll always have something to really feel good about. Larry
2006-08-15 00:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by dumbbutt4321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your heart open and love him. Give him a hug when you see him. He is more nervous than you. It is your turn to be strong for your Dad. Life brings you hard things to do, buck up and don't live with regret.
2006-08-15 00:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur dad is always going to be the same guy u have always known sometimes cancer will change people but u have to talk to him like everythings ok and just dont bring up the subject of his cancer an just talk to like u would of if he didnt have cancer.
2006-08-15 00:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by kimmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry everything will be fine just be glad dat you spend more time with your father since you dont knoe how much more time he has left, see him cuz yeterday is history today ur living 2morrow is untold so dont wait for it the last second for you to spend sometime with your dad. show him now dat you love him with laughter n joy not later with tears and sorrow. Love him how he is n how he looks now, show him all ur love now cuz later could be really late. Think about it!!!!!
2006-08-15 01:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by ratoncita1207 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋