My almost 3 year old won't talk and having issues with potty training? Help please?

Question

I really need some tips with my older daughter. She only says a few words and is ready to potty train. she understands what I say the majority of the time. I'm just having a hard time with the potty training. She won't go on the potty. And takes all her poo out of her diaper after she goes! It's horrible! Please help! Has anyone ever gone through this? Please help! Any suggestions would be more than appreciated! I'm getting so tired of cleaning and sanitizing and scrubbing my carpets!

She's showing signs of readiness, it's just difficult because she won't talk to me. Like she takes her diaper off everytime she pees and will stay dry for 2-3 hours off and on all day

Her pediatrician says she'll talk when she's ready.

Answer 1

Here it is- it has worked for my 2 kids,and others after I tell them........

1. get m and m's handy
2. get a small potty chair
3. get a couple books about potty
4. you need to be home for about 4-5 days straight
5. now you can start. let them run around bare-but
6. Set the timer for 1/2 hour. Tell him/her to sit on the potty for 5 min. (read them a book in the mean time if it's to long for them.) If they go, give lots and lots of praise!!! I mean go crazy!! Give them about 3 m and m's.
7. Set the timer for 1/2 hour
8. Avoid asking the question "you got to go potty?'
9. Timer goes off- ok! What does that mean junior? Time to go potty again he or she would say, or you say it if they don't
10. repeat process all day long. If they go # 2 in the potty, reward with a handful of m and m's. They are very colorful and kids love them!!

11. Praise praise praise. I do spank my kids for behavior problems such as lying, disobedience, and bad attitudes, but never for having an accident. If there is an accident, clean it up queitly, and don't say much at all. Remind them it's ok, but try to make it in the potty next time, or in your own words.

Good luck!!! Hope this helps you. My girl was potty-trained in two days with the method. Took my 2 1/2 year old son a week. Leave pull-ups on them at night just in case.
p.s. if this doen't work at all, try again in a few months.

Answer 2

A 3 year old should be speaking in full sentences and have a vocabulary of over 100 words. I can't imagine why a pediatrician would not be concerned. I work with children ages birth-3 years who have delays, and when it comes to speech it really should be addressed as early as possible. Your local school district will evaluate her speech for free and offer free services for her so that she catches up by kindergarten.

I've seen people mention autism and the other signs of that (besides a delay in expressive language) would be not playing with other children, not using non-verbal communication such as pointing (defined as an isolated index finger point) and some children have hand flapping or rocking, or a fascination with spinning objects, or opening and closing doors. Again a local school district would help guide you in the right direction if they felt it was autism.

As far as potty training goes I would offer a reward that's only used for going potty. Increase her liquid intake and take her every 15 minutes to sit on the potty. She will eventually go by accident and when she does offer her the reward and have a "potty party". I would also just keep her in regular underwear during the day at home when you are working on this so that if you see her start to go you can rush her to the potty to finish. When you take her to the potty I would use a aphrase like "It's time for potty" so that she starts recognizing the word potty. Try having her repeat the word when you are taking her. If she has an accident that you dont get to in time just change her and dont say anything about it. Only use positive reinforcement. Good luck.

Answer 3

I agree with the person who said to find a new pediatrician. Your daughter is severely delayed in speech and needs intervention right away. I can't imagine how any trained pediatrician could miss that!

You should also contact your local school district to get your daughter speech services. You can also do private speech therapy that your insurance might cover.

You might also consider seeking out a developmental pediatrician to see if your daughter is delayed in other areas as well. She may have some sensory issues.

Have you had her hearing checked? This could affect her expressive language as well as her receptive language.

As far as potty training goes, it does seem like she's uncomfortable in dirty diapers, indicating that she is ready to go on the potty. But she may have some other issue preventing her from being trained or wanting to use the potty. My daughter wasn't potty trained until right after her third birthday. We had to wait though b/c my daughter has Cerebral Palsy. She wasn't coordinated enough and didn't have the balance to use the potty until later. I had her day-trained in a week. We used a sticker chart from Kando products (by Pampers). She got a sticker every time she used the potty, wiped, flushed, and washed/dried her hands. Once the book was full, we bought her a new video. Once she went poopy on the potty for an entire week without any incidents, we took her to Chuck E. Cheese.

I really wish you the best of luck with your daughter.

Answer 4

As far as the potty training, my daughter figured it all about just weeks before she turned 3. Before that--no success. She peed on the floor many times. She also really wanted big girl panties, but peed in them. I tried bribes--that didn't work. I tried stickers---she could care less. I think what helped for us is that I was expecting a baby (2 wks before she turned 3) and no longer patient...and didn't want to deal with the messes, so I didn't force her. I asked her all the time...but I didn't have the energy to run her to the potty. Then, in came my mom one day to help me prepare for the baby....and all of a sudden my daughter was more than thrilled to be going on the potty for her grandma. Actually, she wanted to show her she could do it. That was it. 1 day...it was over. We filled up the stickers for fun.

As far as talking--she should be saying more words by now. Sentences in fact. I would ask the pedi about that.

Answer 5

Um, a couple of questions. Does she look you in the eye or does she usually avoid eye contact? Is she a huggy child or does she push people away when they get physical? Does she get upset at loud noises, bright lights, scratchy clothes, cold stores...stuff like that? Does she "parallel play" with kids while kids her age are starting to play together? Does she look up when there are noises or her name is called but other times seem like she's deaf? This is important because these may be signs of autism or autistic spectrum disorders. She may also have a hearing problem, or, like your doctor said it could be she's just taking her time. I'm a little concerned she's not speaking yet though, and with difficulty potty training, these are two things I dealt with with my son.

Answer 6

She is almost three, which means she is old enough to understand and know what she does is not acceptable.
You need to sit her down firmly and tell her in a firm voice that you will not stand for that anymore. However as she is not speaking much you should take her to a doctor, to see in which percentage she is, compared to other children. With the potty training you should have started at the age of 15 months, you need to give her rewards when she's gone, if she still takes her poop out of the diaper, I would smack her fingers lightly and stand her in a corner, not in her room though. She'll get the message and to me that's not child abuse either.

Answer 7

First off GET A NEW PEDIATRICIAN!! A child who is not talking at 3 and who has trouble understanding you is underdeveloped mentally and needs to go to a doctor who knows that. Please find abetter doctor for her sake.
Also when you have that all straightened out Phil McGraw did A potty training special and the child was trained within 2 days. I wish he had been around when i was going through this with my daughter.It is available on DVD

Answer 8

My friend told me to sit the child on the potty and don't let them get up until they go. She had her kids trained by 14 months. My daughter is 19 months and I am starting to train her.

Answer 9

Theres agencies out there that can help kids with there speech Theres actually a programs not sure if in your area heres a toll free number you can call to find out if they service your area and maybe they can give you direction Toll-Free 888-377-6504. Now heres something i did with my daughter everytime i went to the bathroom i took her with me and explained that mommy is using the big girl potty and let her know that shes a big girl now and big girls uses big pots( my daughter likes being called the woman and now everytime she uses the potty she Im the woman) also you can try to make it fun for her.

Answer 10

Your pediatrician can help you out here. They are trained in these type of situations, and if they can't resolve it they can refer you to someone who can help. What worries me more than her potty behavior is her limited vocabulary. A 3 year old should have "more than a few words". Take her to her pediatrician as soon as possible to have him/her evaluate her development and maybe refer you to a developmental pediatrician.