I'm trying so hard to let go and trust this guy but how am i supposed to do that? All the guys i have ever dated have been full of ****, and i want to find that somebody but how can i do that when i dont know how to let go and trust? Help me please.
2006-08-14 16:18:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ahh, yeah i've had the same problems. It's very hard to learn how to put your trust in someone new when you've been hurt by someone close to you in the past. I personally, find it very hard because the hurt is often a lot to take. But you have to know that not every guy will always be out to hurt you, and even though that's not gauranteed, if you really do like this guy and he has put his trust in you, then you should at least try and do the same. if you wait too long you could either end up losing him or you may never trust again. But if you try and trust and it does happen to work out then you will feel great and confident. You need to know that it may not always work out, and that there will always be a chance that you will get hurt. But you have to move on from that and keep trying because if you don't it will tear you apart inside and you may have a hard time trusting from now on. Just keep your guard up and follow your heart. Besides if there wasn't always a chance of getting hurt it wouldn't make scoring so great =) Good Luck!
2006-08-14 16:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tell.Me.Sweetly. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships my specialty (kind of). You are looking at the past too much. Each new relationship is a brand new experience and you shouldn't base or judge it on some of your previous ones. So the new relationship you should just trust the guy if you know his history is a good one (thats not always reliable cause people change) and go a while until you feel comfortable trusting them. Trust and respect have to be earned not just given up. So if you have nor problems with the said person by all means relax and trust them.
2006-08-14 23:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie it is hard to trust when you have been hurt. I just answered another question where I told them I have been married 4 times and divorced 4 times because there was not one of them that could be faithful. I will however try to trust another man until he gives me a reason not to. The gentleman I am talking to now told me "We must love as if we have never been hurt" and that is true. So if we plan to have happiness in a relationship we must try to trust or spend our lives alone. Try to trust him honey until he gives you a reason not to.
2006-08-14 23:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by angeldolls4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when I was younger; Was very trusting and very naive; You have to trust with caution; try to get to know "warning signs" (have you ever caught him in a lie, smelled perfume on him and have him make up a lame excuse, notice stuff/money is missing,etc.); You should go in with an open mind, but remember, trust is something to be earned-not automatically given!
2006-08-14 23:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't punish all guys you meet, because some have not been kewl...give each one the benefit of the doubt, but don't trust too blindly....get to know them a bit first, and go with your "gut"...you may not always be right, but that's a chance you have to take if you want to date...
You can choose to close yourself off emotionally, so you cannot be hurt...but then you'll also be depriving yourself of the joy of love and happiness when a relationship is working well...
2006-08-14 23:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going threw the same thing the three serious relationships i have been in all have turned out bad the last one ended in may and i am still in love with him and i dumped him because he was a thief and i am not going to give my heart and soul to another man no trust know i feel i cannot trust a man far enough to throw them.
rachael 24 years old.
2006-08-14 23:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by loudmouth3050 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly trust is one of those hard things....you have to trust someone with NO guarantee they wont hurt you.
Beleive me,,, I have trusted some people (both men and women) thinking they were my friend or they could keep a secret or whatever...and have it blow up in my face!
My best advice would be to go SLOWLY>>>>little by little, you can start to build the trust.
2006-08-14 23:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will feel so good when ur with him and relieved and have no doubts but never let ur guard down but be careful no to self sabotage it from the mistrust .. i been there to many dam times im beginning to think men are lovers of themselves like it says in revelations but-- i cant be pessimistic so u have to trust to heal.. and hoping this is ok for u dont go fast then.. take a step at a time. keep ur opinions and thoughts of mistrust to ur self for now dont dwell on it and tell him or he may feel real real bad if he isnt for u and dont want to hurt u so.. go slow
2006-08-14 23:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With time you can learn to trust. the problem with the guys in your past they all had something in common they were losers. give your self a break take little steps and go for it.
2006-08-14 23:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely you will never get over the fact that you have been hurt so you have to let the person you are involved with what is going on otherwise they will not understand.
2006-08-14 23:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by Fantasy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋