There is this guy, that i have been talking to...He says he likes me,but that he is not ready to date, or be in a relashionship,He is 27, and im 21,he works out of town alot ,and says that it is hard to trust someone,he is afraid they might cheat, on him or somthing...I was in a bad relashionship, about a year ago...And he is the first guy, i have liked sence then...I really like him, so what should i do?I don't wanna get close to him, and maybe get hurt..And i don't want to pass this up and him maybe change his mind, and won't to start dating me, instead of hanging out as friends.....Please tell me what should i do
2006-08-14 16:11:31 · 18 answers · asked by momma2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't call him so much. Not that you do. Use this technique. Call him once leave a message. Tell him to call you back. Don't ever call again if he doesnt call you again. Don't call him too much if he doesn't call you too much. Let him come to you more meaning calls, visit, emails etc. Men go for what they want trust me! Even a shy guy they are not all shy when they see something they want. Men dont waste time with their feelings if they really want you. He has already told you he doesn't want a relatioship so there's your answer. You can't make him want what he has already seen. Not that you are not attractive but certain guys like different things about women whether cute or not. Don't go changing you though or else you'll be fake and the true you will always show. Hang in there, he might come around. Stay cute and fit and keep your personality great and if he doesn't come around someone sexier and nicer will come around for you. Remember this forever!!
2006-08-14 16:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by LaToya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him, take a chance, date him. Earn him trust. Let him see that you won't cheat. I don't think he'll cheat on you since he's been in a previously bad relationship. Get to know each other really well and date! That way, you're not passing this great guy up to someone else, you'll be more than friends and the worse case scenario would be is you'll end up being just friends if things don't work out. That wouldn't be so bad. So, let him know you like him more than a friend and want to date! See what happens!! Good luck!!
2006-08-14 16:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he says he is not ready to date then you have to wait for that to come. You can not force the issue right now especially if he said so. The best thing to do is just have fun as friends. Stay that way till he realizes he's ready to go out with you. Besides, good relationship always starts with a good friendship. You will get to know each other better.God bless!
2006-08-14 16:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by justurangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if he is working out of town a lot he probably is not worried that you will cheat as much as he is afraid that he will cheat. Men usually will not do with out when they are out on their own and the partner is not there to catch them. I would wash my hands of that relationship before it gets started. I am well experienced in cheating men. I have been married 4 times and divorced every one of the cheaters. Take care of yourself. You are young with your whole life ahead of you. Don't waste it on some jerk that can't even be honest about who he thinks will cheat.
2006-08-14 16:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by angeldolls4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Firstly don't let anyone you love know that you cannot live without him...this provides the other person with a power to hurt you. If you like this guy then just simply take good care of him and gradually he will start understanding your emotions...
As you said you was in bad relations a year ago...just take care this time and try to analyze the behavior of this guy...Also try to see this relation from his stand point...what he thinks? what he feels about you? and what he has gone through?
Take care
2006-08-14 16:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by jasarora07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really wan him, then tell him, but, also tell him slowly, don't rush or u might juz change his mind... The easiest way is to leave a message and wait 4 his reply... Be it a phone call or a message from him....
2006-08-14 16:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by R~TeDDy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt press it, Just have fun when you are together, Dont let other guys pass by without giving them a chance also. You just never know.
2006-08-14 16:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by dontknow86 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant push him in to a relationship if he dosent want one, just take it as friends & see how it goes because the more you just talk the more you really get to know him better, then if you become involved you will both know each other better & be stronger as a couple.
2006-08-14 16:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems nice and you seem like you're ready to start something try going with him on these out of town stuff see if somethings wrong or dosent feel right this is your chance follow your heart!!
2006-08-14 16:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue being his friend ...sooner or later he will like you more just dont get to the point where you fall madly inlove because the you will get hurt...your too young to go through this right now...go to college if ur not yet...keep ur self busy and enjoy the times you spend with him...good luck !!!!
2006-08-14 16:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by liltexas36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋