My boyfriend is in the Army. He wants me to move to Tennessee when he comes home. Should I ?

Question

I am satisfied with our relationship so far. He takes gr8 care of the baby. And for the past few weeks he has been sending me fresh flowers. But when he comes back from Iraq, he will be stationed in Tennessee. I stay back in Iowa. I wanna be with him. I want us to move to the next level. Would I be making a bad decision by moving in with him? So far away?

I have a job. We are in love. And we talk openly about marriage.

Answer 1

Well if the baby is his you should be together if you love each other. You have already a family, but from my point of view you should get married first. Ask him if he is willing to move to the next level and just ask him if you are ready also.Remember the come very different from war. You need to be very careful with the decision you are going to make.Best wishes!

Good luck to you

PS I am married to an ARMY soldier

Answer 2

Let me cut it to you straight... An un-married women with a baby, a guy with a steady job that "loves you" and your child. With that scenerio, i would expect a wedding ring, but also i would expect you to move in. Just make sure you realy love him, when hes gone for a year at a time youll find yourself in a true test of love a faithfullness. Im in the Navy and ive seen alot of military marriages go up in smoke, theres nothing normal about a military relationship

Answer 3

it's not that far away. go ahead give it a shot. and please don't listen to those people who told you, you should get married first.
people do come back different after fighting in a war. you want to live with him for a while before you would even consider getting married. i don't know if you do, but a lot of people that answered your question, suggested you get married first. that just worried me. don't you do that.
but you have a baby together. so, try to be a family without a marriage license. if it doesn't work out, you can always move back home, and you won't have to get divorced first.

Answer 4

Tennesee is not that far from Iowa at least its not like he's staying in Iraq and asking you to move with him somewhere overseas so when you think about it, it could be worse and you already have a baby and want to move things forward so why not

Answer 5

My husband and I went through this when we were dating. We were living in GA and he got orders for NC. He wanted me to go but I said not without being married. So we got married and we are happier now than we have ever been. If you move up there and something happens as far as with your relationship you are stuck with no friends and no family. You need to be married. I hope this helps.

Answer 6

Find out his intentions is he thinking marriage or just staying together do you work/ if you do can you transfer,keep some emergency cash in case you do need to move back and you won't be dependent on him but search your heart and do what feels right

Answer 7

That is totally up to you. It sounds as if you share a child together. I say if you love him and want to be with him then give it a try. If it doesnt work you can always go back home. good luck.

Answer 8

(not meant in a mean way at all) Nobody on here cares where you move or if you move. You need to ask someone you personally know, say a friend, they will care more and give you an honest, thoughtful, and helpful answer. Or talk to yourself about it.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Yes, if it's truly not what you want. Eventually you'd grow to resent him. It shouldn't be about "the next level" - it should be because you can't imagine being apart from him etc.

Good luck

Answer 10

it depends on what you truely want. You sound like you are a family already so I would say that I would go if I were you.... if you both are ready for the next level.