I took the first step in emailing this guy after I met him at a wedding (we were introduced through mutual friends there). He talked to me a lot there, but then didn't say good bye when it was time to leave. A few days later I sent him a casual email with the name of a restaurant that we had talked about in our conversation, so it's not like I was really coming on to him aggressively.
He replied, and then I did, and now a few emails later, it seems like that's it.
Here's my thing: I don't want to seem aggressive or needy, especially since I was already the first one to come forward and email him as it is. I know he's not seeing someone because his and my friends would know.
**Guys: Do you think I should continue to email this guy and keep up something with him?
2006-08-14 15:51:24 · 14 answers · asked by it's me! 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My opinion is that the two of you had an extremely casual meeting that meant more to you than to him. So, I believe that it would be in your best interest to look elsewhere for love. Keep in mind the following:
1) Not everyone acts and reacts in the same manner in relationships. As with most of life's situations, it's better to be flexible and keep your eyes open. You get hurt less this way!
2) Not all guys like the chase. There are males who really enjoy a woman who is open and honest.
3) Don't ever play games! Game players always find themselves in both the position of the abuser and the abused. When games are played, both sides lose!
4) Don't try to pick up pointers from books and websites. Remember that everyone loves to play arm-chair psychologist and there is a tremendous amount of misinformation out there on a variety of subjects, love included.
In the end, it is better to just be yourself, try to be as open, forthright, and down-to-earth as you can. However, if after all your attempts at friendship fail with one person, you can always remember and have faith in the old adage, "There's more than one fish in the ocean." Trust what I have told you, for I'm more than half a century old and have been around the block many times the average person. All the best to you!
2006-08-14 16:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the guy was trying to feign interest during the wedding so he could try to pursue a one night stand. Obviously, he didn't respect you by not saying goodbye to you. His in-adherent lack of interest in emails is another sign that this guy is not interested in you as a person. Don't pursue this man anymore. He is not worth it. A relationship is a two way street. There are guys out there that will sweep you off your feet. Wait for the right time and the right guy.
2006-08-14 16:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Randy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, puhLEAAAZZzze don't take any of that "hard to get" advice. There's not much worse than sending misleading signals where cultivating a relationship is concerned.
From a guy's POV, he doesn't sound very interested. It seems as though you may be somewhat aware of this already but don't want to admit it to yourself (as many of us do where matters of the heart are concerned).
In any case, I feel you have two logical options:
1. If he's not interested, just leave him be and move on.
2. If you can HONESTLY say you feel there may be something there worth exploring, CUT TO THE CHASE: As tactfully as possible, let him know that your interest is more than "friendly" and that you wonder if he's as interested in getting to know you as you are in him...
Then u'll be able to disregard all of our Answers for the mere speculation that they are; HE'LL answer your question once & 4 all, for sure! ;-)
2006-08-14 16:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess there's no harm to continue contact as a friend. Not all boy-girl relationship has to end up been partners, just keep in contact as you would with any other friends, and if something more comes out of it, great, it not, you still got a friend. But if he starts avoiding you even with just casual contacts, than maybe he got something to hide, so think again. Cheers!
2006-08-14 15:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by CrazyHunter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For men its all about the chase. Once thats over, they give up. You have to keep them guessing. Don't email them for a couple of days. Make them email you. Play hard to get.
2006-08-14 15:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by jessicaker2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should keep on e-mailing him......if you want to continue making a fool out of yourself, sweetie!!! From what you said, you have been very aggressive and act very needy! Face it, he is not into you!!! And, just because you say that he is not seeing anyone because his friends would know, just does not hold water! You have nothing going with him so there is nothing to "keep up". Again, you are making a fool of yourself.....STOP!!!
2006-08-14 15:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats the whole male phycology you should know how to play the dating game right read some dating tips and articles on this site
2006-08-14 15:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by eric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men don't like desperate women.
When a woman is needy or aggressive toward some of these men, they will turn their back on you.
I'm that way myself.
2006-08-14 15:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by Harry Cat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could of work with someone else so don't think everyone is the same. You want to do that and you did nothing wrong..just move on. Maybe it will work the next time who knows!
2006-08-14 15:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by big fan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some males need to know without question that you are interested.
Send him another e-mail and let him know you are interested in a relationship with him.
2006-08-14 15:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by darkwolfslust 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋