HELP!!!! I have no idea wut to do!!!?

Question

OK, so my mom died in 2003, and my dad has had 3 girlfriends since then, two of which us "kids" actually liked. Now, he's marrying one of them, a cruel Brazilian woman. We tell him all the time how much we hate her, and he totally lashes out saying how we are just some "smartass teenagers", and that we don'tknow anything and he's marrying her anyway and we have to deal with her for the rest of our lives. She doesn't even like us. She o0bviously doesn't understand that we aren't just kids and that we are normal people with feelings and lives that we would prefer not be ruined. One day, we were talking about my braces, and how much they cost us. When my dad's fiance heard how much they cost, ashe said: "WHAT?!You paid THAT much money just for THEM?! They're only kids!" My dad told her that braces are not just cosmetics, and that everyone needs them to be healthy. Her Visa expired years ago, and i've thought about getting her deported,but mydad toldme that if i did, he would thro me out.

Answer 1

well,if you really,really,loved your dad you would do what he wants because there is oviously something he likes about her
try sucking up to her or maybe sucking up to your dad
if your older than 18 move out if your younger it is either this or foster care whatever you choose
or maybe you can just stya @ ur friends like everyday and when your home try staying in your room is much as possible

Answer 2

I like the idea of reporting her to INS but anonymously. They are not going to divulge who tipped them off so your dad will never have any proof it was you or your siblings. If you really don't want to do this, I would go and get an independant background check done. Chances are, there is something in her past that you can use. Are there any adults (i.e. your dad's age) that could sit him down and make him realize just how bad a woman she is? He doesn't seem to want to hear it from you but he might listen to someone else that he can relate to.

I'm sure your dad is probably lonely and that is why he wants to marry again. My mom passed away on mother's day in 2003 so my dad is living with this. Part of me thinks I would have no idea what I would do if he brought someone home that we didn't like but neither my sister nor I are teenagers so our dad would probably listen to us if he brought home someone we truly didn't like. I'm not sure how spiritual you are, but it might be worth it to pray about it - that your dad will realize her true nature and come around

Hope this helps and I hope it all works out for you in the end.

Answer 3

I say send an anonymous letter to Immigration. Let them know everything about her, where she works, lives, goes to church etc.

My mom passed in 2003 as well, on new years day. her husband at the time decided once she passed that he really wanted nothing to do with us. I never liked him from the beginning so i understand you. I kept quiet for my moms sake, but if you truly do not feel that you can bear living there with her, would it be possible for you to find another relative to live with? I don't think you should have to leave your home but in the end your father may just need to have this to make him open his eyes to see how it is affecting his children.

Answer 4

I KNOW HOW HARD IT MUST BE FOR U.I'M SURE UR DAD LOVES U AND IF U LOVE HIM SHOW HIM THAT BY ACCEPTING HIS NEW WIFE.JUST TRY CUZ EVERYONE HAS A LITTLE KINDNESS IN THEIR HEARTS,AND I;M SURE SHE COULDN'T BE THAT BAD SINCE UR DAD LIKES HER.IF SHE REALLY IS THE WAY U DESCRIBE HER PRAY THAT UR DAD DUMPS HER.U NEED TO UNDERSTAND HIM TOO...WE ALL NEED LOVE.

Answer 5

why not get an independent background check for her,
that you can present to your father, even if it cost a few bucks.

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=background+check&btnG=Google+Search

Answer 6

give me her name i will call the ins for you