my mom and dad never let me hang with most my friends i have to have friends behind there backs.every friend i have they find a problem with them one friend was because she had a dad that let her do what ever she wanted and my 2nd friend was horible because she gets a little cocy every now and then with her mom and dad every now and then. I mean i love my mom and dad and every thing ,but i wish they wern't so over protected.To make madders worse i've only been to the mall like 10 times in my life.WHAT DO I DO?????????
2006-08-14 15:49:31 · 24 answers · asked by anomanous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i don't have any religon at all we really don't go to church at all.
2006-08-14 16:03:46 · update #1
tell them to trust you. you know what kind of friends are good and bad and you don't always need them.
2006-08-14 15:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, be thankful you have parents who sound like they care about you so much. I know, doesn't sound like it- but trust me, wasn't too long ago I was about your age and going through the same sort of thing with my parents. It sucks while you are going through it, but they do know a bit more about what's out there than you do.
I would say go along with it, have a good attitude, earn their trust for a while longer. They will have no reason not to trust you when you may want to go hang out at the mall for a few hours by yourself. If they won't let you go to your friends, then keep having your friends over at your place. All the time, just get them used to it, and getting to know your friends better. They will relax eventually, as long as you are cool about it.
As far as the whole mall thing, maybe they don't like crowds? I hope you get to go to the mall more often. Just keep in mind this popular quote: "Show me your friends and I'll show you your future." I'm sure that's what your parents are thinking. If you're not sure, be open and honest and ask them. The more mature you are about things, the more they will trust you and take you seriously.
It just takes time. Be patient, and best wishes!
2006-08-14 22:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by Adje J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see my 10 year daughter saying the same thing on Yahoo! answers in 4 years. Be thankful that you have parents who care about you and love you enough to be protective. There are so many young people out on the streets, making bad choices, with no one at home who really cares. Hang in there for another 4 years. When you are 18, you can go out in the real world, have all kinds of friends, go to the mall 10x a day, work, and support yourself.
2006-08-14 22:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dee Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show them you are responsible. Ask them that you will be ok and u can take care of yourself. How old are you? HAve you shown them that you can be trusted? Yes they are protective, but thats becuz they care about you. You need to show them that you have a good head on your shoulders so that they will feel more at ease if/when you hang out with your friends or go to the mall. Wha dont u point out the faults of ur friends to them too? Try it out. If u do that they may believe that you hate the bad things and you may make them believe truth or otherwise that you are not like them.
2006-08-14 22:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have a friend named Haley that has your same problem n I'm thinking u should bring ^ the problem to your parents n say mom,dad I'm kind of lonely i would really appreciate it if you would let me have some friends n give each one of them a try because i love u both n i wish u could be my best friends but i cant tell u EVERYTHING that i can with a couple or hand full of friend....so could u think and consider letting me have some friends..?
i think that's what u should bring ^ to them or at least say something like it ;)
a 13 year old girl -Mandy
2006-08-14 22:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mandy♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you need to sit down and talk to ur parents. Idon't know ur religious background, but a lot of asian parents are like that. I am not sure what u are. But I would try my best to talk to them .if that doesnt work talk to a good family friend who can really help with ur situation. Another thing that mite help is have ur parents and u set up certain standards sit with them listen to them and they should listen to u. Maybe if u come up with a basis of what is acceptable they will approve. I also don't know how old u are , but if u are 18 n younger maybe ur parents are just tryin to make sure u have friends who wont influence u in the the wrong way....just reassure them.
2006-08-14 22:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by Confused4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually parents know what they do. We have that thing called instinct and you may not realize it now but once you are a parent yourself you will go like oh yeah they were right.
Just consider this, NOBODY else on earth loves you and cares for you and wants the best for you other than your parents. THey dont wanna spoil your fun, they want you safe and secure.
Maybe you should have a talk with them and tell them how you feel.
2006-08-14 22:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Shaki_smile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right to not like the girl who do whatever she wants, that's one stupid dad she has. The one that is cocky is not a good influence, so I can see your parents point of view on that. They want you to be influenced by better people, pick your friends carefully, it will serve you well and make your parents sleep better at night. Sneaking around behind your parents backs is not a good idea either. I suggest you rethink that.
2006-08-14 22:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u wanna hang out with ur friends have ur parents meet ur friends parents. This way ur parents will feel more comfortable letting u go out or hang out with ur friends.. Parents can tell a lot from other childrens parents. They do this because they love u and want whats best for u.
2006-08-14 22:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents only want the best for you, and you must understand that. If your parents don't know your friend or their parents, just get them to meet sometime. If not, just tell them you need to talk. Say that youre not a little girl anymore, and you know which friends to hang out with and which one's to avoid. Tell them that you'll be responsible and you know what youre doing.
good luck!
2006-08-14 22:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the oldest, because for me it was hardest to let go with my first child. Try telling them that you are responsible, and show them that you are. If you are responsible and don't get into trouble when they let you go out- they will most likely let you go out more and more. Just remember if you tell them to be somewhere at a specific time, be there. If you aren't they will worry and most likely keep you in more.
Good Luck!
2006-08-14 22:56:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋