What would feel if your co-worker didn't invite you at her wedding?

Question

When I got married, I invited 3 people at work eventhough I wanted to invite few more. A year later, she got engaged and invited me and lots of her friends from work and not from work. I lost contact with her for a year bec. I was on maternity leave. When I got back from work, she changed department and see her very seldom. Few months after, I found out from few of my co-workers that they just attented her wedding. I felt left out. I was telling myself that I shouldn't expect to be invited anyways even I was there at her engagement and I invited her at my own wedding. But since then I lost interest in her and even the thought of inviting her at my place for BBQ, that I promised her long time ago, had disappeared. I said to myself what a waste to time to be her friend. I just move on since I don't see her anymore. We're still working the same co. but different dep't. I couldn't believe I'm writing this question but since I have nothing else to ask, might rather ask somebody's opinion.

Answer 1

Be glad you didn't have to come up with another wedding gift. Shopping for them gets so tedious. And then there's the actual wedding" What do I wear? Who will I know there? How can I get out of going?...........................you've answered your own question anyway...but I just thought I'd give you more reasons to rejoice.

Seriously, though, it is very easy to get close to someone you work with, in my opinion. But often you seem to lose that "common thread" (the same shi**y boss, the same shi**y customers, the same boring routine...etc.) when you leave the company or even move to another department. I had "friends" that I drank with everey payday, spent evenings with, went camping with, even spent the night with...I had a guy I had an affair with (thought I was "in love")--all of these relationships are distant memories now that I work for another company. It just happens....

Answer 2

It sounds like she has moved on, collecting other friends.
I would also detect a possibility of a grudge on her behalf,
for whatever reason. Perhaps there is jealousy on her behalf as well. You got married first and now you had a baby first. Things of this nature can trigger jealousy.
Without a word spoken she has said her view without inviting you to her wedding. In my opinion that was very low on her behalf.and quite distasteful. I assure you I would look for other friends and leave this one behind.. You can do it with more dignity than she did.
You haven't done anything wrong so do not feel bad.
You do not need friends like that. Just file her previous friendship in file 13 and move on past this. Speak not a word about the girls wedding...she is probably awaiting to hear some gossip on that behalf. Just go on your days like nothing happened. I would drop her as a friend and I would never trust her again. Let her be, one day she will learn it takes being a friend to have a friend.
God Bless you and walk with your head held high...

Answer 3

Yeah, you've already got it pegged. You guys don't see eachother except at work, which means you are not social friends, just co-workers. And now that you're not in the same department, you're not evening socializing co-workers anymore. So since you arent doing any other of the after-hours stuff together, it would be silly to expect a wedding invitation. Comeon, you have made those invitation lists yourself. You know how precious those spots are. Remember: every bride invites as many people as she can afford to invite.

Answer 4

At your wedding you invited the people you wanted. At her wedding she did the same.She invited you to her engagement party and you said you lost contact for a year.She probably though you had forgotten her by you being gone so long. You could have called , written, or e-mailed her to let her know you were thinking of her.Maternity leave is no excuse for bad manners.

Answer 5

It shouldn't be a big deal, Mercy. She just doesn't consider you one of her best and/or current friends or you would've been invited. If this were someone you saw every day at work or even every week I might understand your hurt feelings but that's not the case. You two haven't seen each other in a while and, as a result, you were overlooked. Don't let this hurt you. I'm sure you weren't excluded on purpose.

Answer 6

You lost touch with her, so maybe she felt like you didn't need to be invited. She's under no obligation to invite you. Sometimes to stay within budget, you have to keep the guest list short, maybe that's what happened. If you're not really close and talking every single day, I would not care and I would not take it personally. Did you really want to be there, or are you just jealous that your other coworkers got to go?

Answer 7

Sounds like she was more of an acquaintance than friend, which is okay. Planning a wedding is so time consuming; it is easy to forget to put people on the list. My guess is that had you been present an/or came to mind, you probably would have been invited.

Answer 8

People. Emotions. It s u c k s, I know.
First off, she probably felt that you forgot her & since it was you who lost contact with her since she switched departments, it's hard to blame her.
Which explains why you weren't invited to the most important day of her life. Although, your colleague sounds like she's not really as genuine a friend as most friends do.
If she was, she could've at least found out around the office on your whereabouts, instead of jumpin' into conclusions and shutting you out completely.

Answer 9

whilst the time got here to deliver out our wedding ceremony invites, I had purely began a sparkling interest, (had only been there some months) and became into in form of a similar place as you. I have been given alongside with my co-workers, yet did no longer sense close adequate to any of them to function them to the customer checklist. long tale short, i did no longer invite any new co-workers to the marriage, even nevertheless they have been conscious it became into happening. no person became into indignant, and it worked out high-quality.

Answer 10

Life is too short. Maybe she had a tight budget for her wedding. Invite her to the bbq if you like her company. If she doesn't go she doesn't go. You'll know for sure. Good luck.