HOw do you be friends with an ex boyfriend who hurt you?
2006-08-14 15:13:56 · 43 answers · asked by jenks1545 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you dont..you just dont..its not possible without having wierd feeling between each other
2006-08-14 15:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by aoinerekai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time is the factor and key to that. The immediate time is to soon. The most common rule of thumb is lovers can usually never be friends (when both are still young) I have noticed over the years that if the hurting happens in the high school/college years both parties part and go separate ways for numerous years and meet again at social function like a class reunion, most of the time the parties involved can get along in a platonic scenario again, because they have grown from it. Something completely despicable is another factor (i.e. a murder, rape, etc).
2006-08-14 15:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by ricosuarve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer. You don't. It'll be too rocky a road, and one that will frequently re-open the wounds. You can part on good terms. You can be acquaintances, maybe have a drink to catch up here & there if you run into each other while out on the town, however friends is usually not the best path to take. Wounds need time to fully heal. Both of you need to be able to move on. Constant contact will only hinder that.
2006-08-14 15:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by coolnessa8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be up to the ex-boyfriend.
I am best friends with my ex-husband but we have a daughter together and that is what the line of communications open. I love him dearly but I could not live with him any longer. Today we help each other when the other needs it, so it is possible but it will have to be on both parties.
2006-08-14 15:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Gabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of direction no longer. I even have been contained in a similar sitituation for over 10 years! and that i'm no longer with him now. i like him greater advantageous than the different guy that I even have been with.that's to no longer previous simply by be freinds returned in case you the two can basically be pals until eventually you opt to waste an excellent sort of a while on b.s. And basically undergo in strategies you broke up for a reason basically undergo in strategies that.
2016-09-29 06:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by riesgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard to hear, but really it takes a lot of time and NO contact.
Eventually you will go weeks without thinking about him, that’s when you’re ready to be friends.
Trust me; my best friend in the world is my ex! Took years before we were ready to become friends.
2006-08-14 15:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Pepperton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Devorced twice and I'm great friends with both x-es. I let my 1st x and her husband stay the knight at my house on Christmas. It's all for the kids but I think It is alot better to just be a GOOD friend for them and they will be a good friend back. Let by gones be by gones and if you both want the friendship instead of relationship you could be good friends for life.
Be humble and he should follow.
2006-08-14 15:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by twice2x2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't! At least not for a few years. It's only going to hurt more or you'll end up back together. Leave him be until the wounds heal, then maybe you can be friends.
2006-08-14 15:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by jamiesacademyofdance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forgive him for judging you, when he promised not to. forgive him for breaking promises, hopes, dreams, and dates. then you thank him for being supportive, even if he never really was. Then you hide the fact that ur still jealous and uncomfortable of him seeing or even wanting to be with someone else. then dont ever ever let him get too close to you again... the first cut is the deepest- not always true. if you let him in again, he will hurt you again. men are lucky to get one chance with us let alone any at all!!!!!!! you go girl!!!! leave that bastard alone if he hurt you. its a double standard- were precious and if they cant see that, thats their loss!!! ps. make it clear its over or hell become obsessed. Good luck, love, amanda
2006-08-14 15:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard but it depends on the situation that caused the breakup. As you said he hurt you.........if that was as a result of infidelity then, Is this someone who you want to be your friend. Someone who has lied to and betrayed you. My ex wanted us to be friends after we were seeing each other for a year, he had someone else pregnant and has the nerve to want us to be friends. I said hell NO!!! you lied to me, betrayed me and put my health and risk and then you want to be friends.............I think not!!! As I said it depends on the situation. You weigh the pros and cons and decide..........good luck!!!
2006-08-14 15:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard, and in most cases impossible...sure you say you just want to be friends...but it never happens...i think its good to just let go...say good bye to the past and hello to the future...i mean...why do you want to be friends with someone who hurt you...that is not classified as a friend. yea you can still keep in touch with eachother once in a while...but sometimes people get the wrong idea that way. just let it happen. if it doesnt happen...just say oh well...you had your fun with them and now its time to let go. dont force it to happen either...then it never will.
2006-08-14 15:21:09 · answer #11 · answered by shortlilkorngrl929 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋