do you beleive in spanking your children?

Answer 1

Only as a last resort.

Answer 2

I am amazed at how many responses you have received with this question and the mixed answers you've received.

I do not believe in spankings. I have 2 small children under the age of 5 and recently quit my corp job to stay at home with them. During this time, my patience has been tested to the limits and have noticed that the old timeout bench no longer works for my oldest. My husband & I agreed that spankings should do the trick. Unfortunately, I was not raised to spank and have felt guilty and sad the 3 times I have spanked my son to teach him a lesson. It not only brings emotion to the table, but it also gives the child negative attention. What I've noticed from the few spankings that have occurred is hurt feelings from everyone, anger and frustration. Has my son learned anything? Sure to resent me. I felt like what I was doing was morally wrong and sought an alternative that would make being disobedient fun and a learning lesson. I found a book Love and Logic for the early years that is truly AMAZING. I've been implementing various things from the book and I have to tell you parenting has never been so much fun! I'm happy I found it and recommend it to anyone. Everyone feels better at the end of the day and my kids know and understand they have limits and boundaries they need to follow. And the spankings are eliminated!

Answer 3

If the child is naughty or miss behaving then on some occasions then spanking is a good way of controlling them and letting them know that they have gone too far. People learn very quickly not to do something if it hurts them to do it, if you antagonise or harass a bee or wasp you are likely going to get stung! If you are stung you are not likely to do it again. So the form of punishment of spanking does have a part to play in teaching a child that they can not do certain things.

However it is best used sparingly and should never be used all the time, if you spank the child every time they do something wrong they become accustomed to it and it does not have the same shock effect that it could have if used only on very extreme occasions.

Answer 4

uhm... well I havent had kids yet but i am an older sister and i ve taken care of spoiled brats before and YES I do believe in SPANKING here and there but not BEATING UP. Sometimes kids do need to "feel" when something it not right. THey need to feel pain in order to not do it. IF and only IF they do not understand the 3rd time they are warned about something. BUt it depends on the level of disobidience.. you can always take away priveleges like watching TV or desserts. Or toys. However, when they come to hitting their moms on the face that will deserve a "spank" on a hand because that is just wrong. It is a sense of authority that you have to have over your children NOT FEAR.

Answer 5

no I do not. The only thing that is does is release the pressure the person feels at the time and then that is replace with quilt. Time out is better for the child. If you are stressed out, a time out gives you a break and make him or her understand that bad behaviour does not get attention , only good behaviour. When things have calm down, show him/her the correct behaviour. Reward the proper listening time and tell the child you are proud of him/her. Give yourself a break and don't feel bad if he yells and screams, at least he is safe from your anger. Tell yourself how good a parent you are for taking a time out. Spanking will not show him anything but an example of what to do when things go wrong and to me, that is not the way to behave as an example. Good luck!

Answer 6

I think there is a difference between spanking and beating a child. My mom would hit us with a belt but she would only hit us like twice maybe three times. You cry for a bit and then your off doing the next bad thing. I never got grounded and don't think I could stand it. I think I would prefer getting hit twice with a belt then not being able to watch tv for a week. Some parents however, take it too far, there is no need for excessive force or humiliation. I guess it's just a personal call.

Answer 7

Yes I believe in spanking my childeren, there is a difference in spanking and beating your kids. I love my children and would not harm them in anyway but I will spank them on their butts if they misbehave. I grew up getting spankings when I did things wrong and I turned out to be a very respectable human being and I dont disrespect my parents even though I am 39yrs old and I still have respect for my mother, I believe that is what is wrong with alot of kids now days they have no respect for their parents and parents are to busy trying to be their children friends instead of being parents and disciplining them.

Answer 8

im only 15 going on 16 very soon but i hang around my 5 yr old cousin every day. ive read and watched programs on tv about spanking children. i truly dont believe its good for them. i think when they eventually grow up, they will become angry people. the best way to "punish" children is to send them to a place in your house that they dont like. when people say "go to your room" that doesnt do anything because they have a comfy bed to be on, and toys and anything else in their room. so make them sit on a chair in a corner of a house for 5 minutes. then tell them if they ever do what they did again or anything "bad", you will put them there for a longer time.
so no, i dont beleive in spanking children.

Answer 9

Yes I do but the way the laws are now you would be risking going to jail over it. I told my son I was going to spank him and he told me that he would tell the people at school I beat him if I did. So no, I don't spank my kids anymore, I guess it has become a crime to have some sort of control of your children which is pretty obvious by the way children behave today.

Answer 10

Yes as long as it is not done out of anger. What my parents done was told us to go to our bedroom. We knew we were in trouble and were gonna get a spankin. They made us wait about fifteen to thirty minutes to make us think about what we did wrong. The waiting was hell. Then our father would come in and sit us down on our beds and would have a long talk with us about what we did and why it was wrong and that we were about to get spanked. We never threaten to call child services on our parents or we would have gotten it worse then they would have called them for us or dialed the number for us. Never yelled at our parents and respected all adults. Spankin WORKS if done without anger and yelling. The hell with others telling me how to raise my children if I had any. Discipline is very important and to stick with it. Too many children running too many households. Parents need to be parents, not the other way around. never abuse a child by hitting or yelling. Spanking is not the same as hitting. IT IS PLAIN DISCIPLINE....

Answer 11

like the old saying spare the rod spoil the child. it will not hurt the child if you do it with love. they have to understand when they do something bad and they will be punish. It builds character and respect. If they do not get spanking when they do something bad they will not know the difference of bad and good. you also praise them when they do good. when you do spank them you owe to them the explanation why they are getting spank. I raised 3 children and I must say I am very proud of them,when they get together they talk about why they got spanking. and they appreciate how they were raised.