For the men 40 years and over?

Question

Please be honest..,in past relationships I had two that said the same thing to me..,because I enjoyed sex quite often with only them..,they said reason they didnt trust me is because they felt they didint satisfy me because it didnt take much to get me going again.I'm not being stupid I just need to know the way the man looks at it..,is this true?I always felt that when a woman loves a man is it not natural to have the sexual desire as well?help me because i dont want this to happen again.thanks

WOW.didnt expect this kind of response.Thanks so much for all the help and the compliments..,where have you guys been all my life.Thank you again for you kindness and sweetness..,and I have to pick a best??when they are all good

Answer 1

It seems the concept of a fathful, comitted, sensual, sexual woman is something that was too much for them to embrace. There are so many ways to try to please and satisfy a woman. They should have cherished and celebrated a woman who had so much desire for only them. It's the men, not you. You may not want it to happen again by choosing better as to get the special gift of your love and desire and comittment.

Answer 2

First of all, you're a treasure for getting going again so easily. I spent a LONG time looking for a woman like you... I found her a long time ago, and we have had a fantastic relationship ever since. For the first ten years we were together, our motto was "The first two are foreplay..." :-) For the middle ten years we were having and raising babies, and frankly we were both more interested in getting three hours of sleep than three hours of sex (though clearly, since we had more than one kid during that ten years, we must have managed SOMETHING). And for the last ten years, the frequency has been down because we have other things in our lives (our kids, active hobbies, community events and causes we're committed to)... but the INTENSITY has been way, way up, for both of us, since about the time I turned 40. And the communication is SO much easier, more genuine, and more satisfying -- it makes the sex just wonderful. (Well, that and when I was about 40, we figured out how my wife could make me have multiple orgasms... but that's another story altogether. :-)

It sounds as though these two guys were very insecure. Maybe they didn't know how to tell they had satisfied you; maybe they didn't have the ability to get going again themselves so easily.

Either way, there's nothing wrong with you. To the right man, you are a pearl of great price, and here's hoping you find him soon so he can cherish you the way you deserve!

Answer 3

Well I'm not over 40, but 35. The two guys you dated must not be the smartest guys! I would love to have a female that liked to have sex quite often. My ex girlfriend said that she felt like a sex toy because I wanted to make love at least 2 times a day! I think you just need to find the right guy! You don't happen to live in CA? :-)

Answer 4

Darlin', these guys are feeding you a line of crap. They don't understand the female, especially her sexual responses and they're trying to hide their own inadequacies.

Your thoughts and responses are perfectly normal. Don't let these guys lay a guilt trip on you - they and they alone are responsible for their emotions and responses. If you let them, they'll have you thinking you have to be their little sex toy any time the mood strikes them and the heck with your needs and desires. Just be aware that it's not always the older guys like them and me who act like that...twentysomethings can be that shallow and selfcentered, too.

You can do better than those knuckleheads. You and I will never meet, but I can tell ya I'd feel I had won the lottery if I met a girl like you. Keep looking; there's a few men out there who're good enough for you. It just takes patience to find one of 'em.

Answer 5

I can't think of anything more ego-building than a woman who wants more!!
But more to the point(?) of your question, it seems you have a thing for insecure guys. Maybe if you try a guy who is secure with who and what he is, you will have mutually satisfying sex. Leave the boys alone and find a real man, a gentleman who can give you what you need.
Good luck

Answer 6

You need to remember that males our age have significant problems with depression and questioning our lives. We question if we have achieved all that we could have, is there still challenges out there, or is it all downhill from now on? Males our age also seem to have less sexual energy than in past decades, whereas women our age is really coming into their sexual peaks. When we were young, we were told by our mothers that it was harmful and even abusive to require sex from women in their 40s and 50s, because they simply are no longer interested.

Answer 7

Lots of times men getting into the forties is sort of like that couple hours just b 4 dusk when the sun goes down. The day just ain't as bright as it used to be. We realize we ain't gettin younger and feelings of inadequacy may creep in. Assure him that the reason your turned on is your love for him and that he is the sexiest man in your eyes

Answer 8

what is of your case is natural ! Different people have different levels.. you should not feel bad or guilty because it is God given.. maybe those guys would be the guilty ones...
who knows whether they were not honest with you ?Sometimes it is because of extreme misunderstanding... never give up and keep your head up as long as you know that you are doing right .

Answer 9

i think u were just unlucky wit those previous relationships. a bit of paranoia on their behalf.why? because u r a sensual woman wit a healthy sex drive.. they must b crazy. how come i cant seem 2 meet women like you..carry on as u r, u will meet ur perfect match 1 day.never know, with a bit of luck, it just mite b me..best of luck

Answer 10

I don't know where you are finding these men but I for one would love to be with a woman that wanted to have sex often. What better way is there to share passion than with your own mate?????????? Don't change, Hon.