This guy has been flirting with me for a while now. He has now stood me up twice. I will never give him an opportunity to do this to me again because I will not stand for that.
However, I still run into him all the time at the gym. What should I say when I see him?
Keep in mind, that I never plan on even hanging out with him again because I think standing someone up is not okay. He claimed to be ill both times but never called. That is a load of crap!
2006-08-14 15:05:56 · 22 answers · asked by Attorney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The question is what do you say to a guy who stands you up????
2006-08-14 15:10:21 · update #1
There really is nothing to say. He made it clear that he doesn't want to be with you, so make it clear that you don't want him either.
2006-08-14 15:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have called. Unless he was so ill he wasn't physically capable of calling, I say BS.
But kudos to you for giving him the benefit of the doubt for the second chance. He blew it. It's his loss.
When you see him in the gym, kick him in the nuts. Just kidding, don't do that. Okay maybe do that mentally.
I'd say be nice and polite. A hello or hi, but nothing more. Like wave hi and walk right pass him. Don't engage in a conversation. You know, like an aquaintence that you don't want to get to know. If you get mad at him, it's giving him weight, as if he matters. At this point he's nothing. Not even worth your anger. Just be polite and civil. If he tries to talk to you, make it a one sided conversation. Short answers but with friendly demeanor. The whole stood you up thing... didn't matter to you, you don't care because he's worthless. It's not even worth mentioning; he has been placed in the trash bin.
2006-08-14 15:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you say to this guy? Nothing. He has demonstrated how little he thinks of you. He probably laughs about it and brags to his friends how hung up on him you are. Now it's your turn to blow him off. Don't even give him the satisfaction of ignoring him -- be polite, but no more. Act as if nothing ever happened between you. Treat him like just another guy. And if he apologizes and asks for another chance, make him work for it. Preferably in front of people. And then turn him down politely. That's less than he deserves, without staining your conscience by being mean to him.
2006-08-14 15:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes a guy stand out to a lady is being self-respecting, respecting of her, having good values, status up for what's ideal, being desirous to assist, appearing like a gentleman.
2016-11-25 01:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by mccuistion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out with him at all. He had his chances. If you see him and he comes up to you don't mentioned it to him show him he's no biggie. And if he ask you out again tell him no and that you are seeing someone else. You know that type of guy is all into himself. He's no good for you. Don't even waste your time with him. TO MUCH DRAMA!!
2006-08-14 15:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Just go about your day. Pretend it was like a tv show that didn't come on as scheduled. Make him BEG to see you again. Shake it off.
2006-08-14 15:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by dSweetBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you let him do it to you the second time! But good on you for refusing to give him a third chance.
To answer your question, NOTHING. There's nothing to say to that jerk and getting yourself upset about it would only give him what he wants. Don't let him win -- completely ignore him and find someone better. Good luck. :o)
2006-08-14 15:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by epiCure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! You are right in thinking that his excuse is nonsense. You need say nothing to him beyond a polite greeting. You are not at fault here and you both know that.
2006-08-14 15:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u don't say anything to him-don't get me wrong a casual hi is ok but don't indulge him by holding a conversation w/ him & whatever u do, don't ever accept an invitation to go out w/ him again
2006-08-14 15:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by momatendofrope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some weird way, he probably wants you to be upset with him. . .don't be. Be friendly, but never, never make plans with him again.
It'll throw his male ego for loops, how you could like him and not want him.
2006-08-14 15:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by ThatGuy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋