Why cant guys be honest even if they are just after sex?

Question

Are there really any honest guys out there. Even if they just want sex cant they be honest about it? Instead of playing all these f*ckin games.

Answer 1

Because the ones you've encountered are little boys. Real men are honest, even when it comes to sex. So because you know that most guys would rather play games, you should now be able to read them and pay attention to their words and actions.

Answer 2

There are honest guys out there even when all they want is sex, as a matter of fact, ESPECIALLY when all they want is sex. I know, because that was me not too terribly long ago. It goes like this: I tell her "I'm a bad relationship risk, I'm dealing with some s---, so I am not looking for a girlfriend or anything heavy, but if you want to kick it, we can kick it"...and that's that. She says "cool", but in the back of her mind she's thinking I'm going to change my mind, presumably because she "thinks" she put it one me or something, but I've already stated for the record that this was all there was to it. And she kept coming back for more. Now I ask you, how much more honest could I have been than that? I stated an honest disclaimer, told her where I was emotionally at the time, gave her every option not to be a party to such an arrangement, and stuck to the parameters of the original agreement. How is that even remotely dishonest? That being said, I regret the entire thing, but not because of any implied dishonesty, but because the casualness of the arrangement began to bother me over time...it was an empty involvement. But I figured even though I was going through some things I didn't have the right to put someone else through some things too unknowingly. So, I used the approach I described earlier. I don't think I am the first man to ever speak those words ( in fact I know I'm not). Could it be that in certain circumstances women ( or more specifically people) hear what they want to hear? I solicit your response.

Answer 3

Most guys figure (rightly so) that if they were honest about just wanting sex that women would be turned off. While there are certainly exceptions, most women -- in my experience, anyway -- want to be more to a guy than just company for the night. While I share your disgust for games, the simple fact is that as long as there are people who like to play games, the rest of us must either play along or lose by default. Thank God that I eventually found a woman who was equally repelled by game playing.

Answer 4

Boys will be boys...period. If a guy would blatantly say he just wants "one thing"...a girl would turn and walk the other way. It is the game , the challenge that they seek, I think. There are honest and sincere guys out there though...you just have not found one. It really is a shame because girls are so upfront and wear their hearts out on their sleeves, so to speak. Men are ruled by their hormones, at least most men, whether they are 16 or 60, believe me. They are women who play games, too. But the differences between the sexes will never change...until men can have babies...LOL! Just be true to yourself and never settle.

Answer 5

Some guys are honest and then the girls generally just walk all over them. For some reason the guy that is the a..hole is the one that gets the girl. But for some reason the relationships never last and the nice guy that was honest and not playing games was left out on the door step because he was the nice guy that was not mocho and could kick every guys butt. (just a thought)

Answer 6

Put yourself in a guys shoes. Let;s say they were honest and they came out and said I just wanna f*ck. What do you think the girls reaction would be? I'm pretty sure 99% of them would either slap him or hate him for life!! That's why guys play games to pretend they like you but all they got on their mind is sleeping with you...... But after saying that, not all guys are like that. The older they are the more mature they become.

Answer 7

There are plenty of honest guys out there, you are just looking in the wrong places. As for the guys who are just looking for sex, it is just a game to them and you are the prize. Lies are just a part of the game. Those " game players " usually don't grow up till they are in their 30's and are forced into a position...

Answer 8

To be honest, they play these games because most women wants ultimately to be married. Guys just goes with the percentage to get lay?

Answer 9

There are plenty of honest guys out there. You may want to rethink where you are meeting these guys. "honest" guys dont hang out in bars and clubs...and if they do....not in significant numbers so that you might be the lucky indvidual that finds him. You should try finding "honest" guys where they are more likely to hang out. Perhaps you should consider getting a social hobby that involves guys.

Part of the dating process is to weed out those individuals that you find undesirable. This is YOUR responsibility. If you dont bother to get to know the person, and find out what their intentions are for that relationship...then you are to blame for it.

Bottom line is this.... you want an honest guy.... then take action. if a guy lies to you...dump him. Dont give the dishonest guys a second chance...because they are only going to lie again.

Good luck.

P.S. I'm honest.... so i know we exist.

Answer 10

The only way you are gonna get close to getting that question answered is for you to lay it out on the table when you first meet. Tell him to just be straight up with you. Tell him that you would appreciate him more if he is honest from the get go. That way if something comes up in the future, he can say, "I told you so"!