I have had unprotected sex with my new boyfriend several times, and I haven't told him yet that I have genital herpes. I thought that he had figured it out, because I have blisters down there and he likes to stick his face down there. But he told me today that he's glad I'm faithful to him because he's afraid of getting VD. And I'm not exactly faithful to him, either (I've had mostly oral sex with about 30 guys since we've been together). Should I tell him now that I'm not faithful and that I have herpes? We've been together almost a month and I'm afraid of losing him if I tell him the truth.
2006-08-14 14:42:38 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
BEFORE you have sex ... not after! He will be lucky to lose you and not be infected! Hopefully he will get it sorted before he goes with anyone else!
Your best option is to apply for mercy in a convent. Let them help you keep away from men.
(My answer will stand for anyone who REALLY needs to ask this question ... I don't think you do for a number of reasons. I do think you need psychiatric help, though, if only for making up this whole story)
2006-08-14 15:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't fear this person physically, please tell them that you have learned that you have herpes, and that you think they have caught it from you. (They may even think they gave it to you.) They may be giving it to others without realizing it, after all you yourself have been with other people while "together" with this person. If you fear this "new boyfriend" physically, as they have been violent, please break up with them somehow but don't tell them about the herpes, as if they figure out you gave them herpes you will be in for alot more violence. I'm sorry you got it, but I'm sure there are lots of people who when you tell them "just o you know, I have herpes, do you still want to have sex/get intimate?" - they will say, "oh I have it too, that's ok. " I read somewhere that 60% of the adult population of N. America has herpes. But if a person doesn't have it, I'm sure they don't want to risk getting it.
2006-08-14 15:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by strawbcat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him and he needs to dump you, you should have told him from the beginning. And my dear the real term for you is slut. I mean really 30 guys! Hello! You probably have more than herpes.
There did I full fill your need for attention. I hope so! Because life would so suck If I did not...
2006-08-14 14:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by sisinlovewithyou 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a lovely etiquette question you Madame have just raised!! A month with your new little boyfriend and 30 guys on the reccord since... By the way, are you really the one on the picture? This is what really pazzels me!!
2006-08-14 15:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by David A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is for real, then you are a sick and twisted person not to let him know about this BEFORE you ever were intimate with him. You should have been honest about this before ever possibly infecting him with this. If he still wanted to do that... it was his choice if he wanted to be exposed to this. You took that away from him and probably gave him something he can't ever really get rid of. Nice... least he will have something to remember you by after he shows you the door.
2006-08-14 14:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by WenckeBrat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you should have told him prior to having any sexual contact. By you not saying that you had this isssue is not nice. When were you planning to tell him? When he finds out from his doctor? My suggestion would be to tell him as soon as possible. Do not wait till it becomes too late. On the subject of faithfulness, it is up to you whether you want to tell him or not. If he was not faithful to you, would you want to know? Good luck in what you decide to do.
2006-08-14 14:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have told him before you had sex with him.
I'd still tell him though so he can go to a doctor. And deal with the fact that you are going to lose him. Trust and truth are a vital part of a relationship.
You need to go to a doctor as well...specifically a psychiatrist.
2006-08-14 14:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Firefly 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You've been together for almost a month.
You've had sex (oral or otherwise) with about 30 guys since you've been with the guy.
Yeah right, whatever.
2006-08-14 14:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by squirellywrath 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
looks like the herps are on your face
2006-08-14 15:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm, EWWWW! I think you must be pulling my leg. On second thought, don't touch me. I doubt you wash your hands. Are you kidding? One, if this is a real question, you should have told him a long time ago, like before you had sex. Two, are you attention starved? Or just dumb? I hope this isn't real, cuz it's really gross!
2006-08-14 14:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by Autumn_Anne 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋