I am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 26 years old and we are deeply in love with each other. We have been together for 1year. He thinks we can have sex now and I am not ready. He is ok with me not ready but I dont know. I think I want to break up with him but I am afraid it would crush him. Tell me what should I do. He have never done anything to hurt me and he is really a nice guy and I wouldnt want to hurt him...I really need some senseable answers please
2006-08-14 14:22:33 · 8 answers · asked by tweetafanita_part_2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ugh, I'm sorry, but the fact of your age and his is just wrong to me.
I know this is not what you want to hear, but take it from someone a bit older than you -- a 26 year old man who pursues a relationship with a kid in high school is either a) really immature or b) out to take advantage of your inexperience. When I was 26, the idea of going out with a teen who still lived with her parents and hadn't yet started thinking about college would have seemed really, really wrong (and, by the way, what DO your parents think of this relationship?)
Furthermore, he, being an adult, should know that sex with a 16 year old is illegal. As in, he can get his *** thrown in jail. What is he thinking? If he's pressuring you to have sex already, then it's unlikely that there's much depth to his caring about you.
As for being "deeply in love", come on. You're in high school -- in a few years, you'll be going off to college, pursuing a career, figuring out what you want to do with your life, and so on. Does he really think that you're a good candidate for a serious relationship? Why doesn't he go out with women his own age?
Anyway, it sounds like you really aren't ready for sex, so don't let yourself be talked into it. Wait until you're older (like, say, 18 at least), then see how you feel. If you tell him you aren't ready and he doesn't stick with you, then there's your answer right there.
Personally, the whole 26 to 16 thing is really shady to me. I mean, 36 to 26 I can understand, but there's a huge difference in maturity, judgement, and life experience between 16 and 26.
2006-08-14 14:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a huge age difference at your age. And in most states, would be considered statuatory rape.
If you want to break up with and have seriously considered it, maybe it would be best. If you are worried about hurting him, tell him you want to take a break from the relationship and cool things off for awhile. At his age, I think he can handle it and has broken up before. Hang with people your age awhile and give it time.
If you get back with him and you BOTH really love each other,great. But don't have sex just for him,ok? Wait until you are ready.
2006-08-14 14:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by desdinova 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to hurt you feelings when I say this, But his *** needs to be in JAIL! You are just a child and have a whole lot of things to experience and not with him. If he LOVE you so much ask him for that flawless DIAMOND if he wants to take your treasure away. If he gives it to you then you guys can discuss your future. If not their is nothing to talk about. You are a young lady and have a whole world and life ahead of you. If he can not understand that you are not ready and NO means No. Then you need to WALK AWAY and take another look at your situation. I know that you may not like my answer but the TRUTH is what you need to hear!
2006-08-14 14:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're contemplating ending the relationship, you're not in love with him. If you're not certain that you're ready to give up your virginity, then you're not. You should never let any man try and manipulate you into having sex with him. You only have one first, and most people regret who they gave it away to. If you have any doubts before you do it, imagine how much you will regret this later on. You are too young to be dealing with a man his age, he is probably only looking for sex... and it's clearly illegal. Just let him go and have fun while you're young. He'll get over it.
2006-08-14 14:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you are not ready, then you are not. Your age difference is clearly causing problems for you. If you want to break up with him, you should do so. Unfortunately, there is no way to do this without hurting him. Sad, but true.
2006-08-14 14:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you young girls don't realize, that if you consented to have sex with him, it would be called statutory rape. You parents, since you are a minor, even though you consent can file rape charges on him. Honestly you need to wait, till you are older or better yet till marriage.
2006-08-14 14:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, "No." You will immediately know if he's the guy for you based on his response. If he gets mad then that's not the kind of guy you want. If not, then he might be alright. I'm concerned about the age difference.
2006-08-14 14:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by harrison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until you are older, and stay with him...
2006-08-14 14:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋