I caught my boyfriend making arrangments to meet a girl that he met online... he said it was "just for fun" and that he would never actually meet up with her... He admitted that he likes to talk trash to some girl online that he met in a chat room... I feel betrayed like he cheated.... does anyone else consider this cheating?
2006-08-14 14:16:41 · 24 answers · asked by fancyfree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yup, if I was in your shoes, I would consider it to be cheating. Why would he do that in the first place - talking to random girls online and even making arrangements with them, when he already has you. Even though he admits to talking trash to some girls... I rather find it very strange for him to even chat online with them. There should be other 'better' things that he can do when he's free rather than chatting. If he won't stop or change what he's doing, then dump him. He ain't worth your time at all. He's not commited to you or honest at all.
2006-08-14 14:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by *a∙e∙r∙i∙t∙h* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Definitely. The things that turn your boyfriend on are supposed to be coming from you. It is a special bond, something that you two should share. And for him to give it away on some cheap thrill is not acceptable. If it turns him on to talk trash to girls then maybe you need to talk to him.
My advice: Let him know you feel hurt and betrayed by what he's done. That you don't take it lightly, and you see it as cheating. Now granted, it's not hard core cheating, but it's still betrayal. And who knows, maybe if you two can come to a common ground, he'll be able to act his fantasies out on you from now on and not on a cyber-bimbo!
Best Wishes!
2006-08-14 14:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by PseudoQuasiX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel cheated, then it's definitely cheating.
My rule of thumb: If it's something you wouldn't tell your partner about, it's definitely cheating.
If he wasn't going to tell you about it, and only told you about it because you caught him, then I would consider that cheating. As for my own personal standards, I would feel horribly betrayed if my partner was doing that, and would find it very hard to forgive or even trust him again.
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. But I think you need to decide what your own personal standards are, and shouldn't put up with anything that violates those standards. Good luck. :o)
2006-08-14 14:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by epiCure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's have a little role reversal here. Would he think it was cheating if you did it? Anyway, it doesn't matter. It only matters that it bothers you. He is supposed to care when he does something that hurts your feelings. If he just defends what he is doing and doesn't care that you are upset by it THEN HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU so why do you care? Don't love someone who doesn't love you.
2006-08-14 14:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's doing that then he's thinking about cheating. I would get out of that relationship before it's too late. If he wants to treat girls like that I wouldn't put up with him. Do what you need to do for you. You can do better.
2006-08-14 14:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's in the premeditation stage... I'm realizing that most men who go online are prone to this type of cheating. I think I'm going to start dating guys who know rarely go online. LOL
2006-08-14 14:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by Delilah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah seems like cheating to me, and by the way saying it was just for fun is one of the oldest guy ways to respond when we get caught doing something.
2006-08-14 14:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by Michael 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating and I wouldn't doubt that he has met up with someone already.
2006-08-14 14:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely cheating on you. It is time for you to get a new wang to play with.
2006-08-14 14:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mike Hunt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe it is cheating. If he says its harmless, then it will be fine if you come along won't it.
2006-08-14 14:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by June V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋