In a relationship for 6 years my partner wants me to be more like a wife rather then a girlfriend. I perfome my duties, don't mistake me, but we don't live together. I still manage to make sure that he have a cook meal(EVERY OTHER DAY.) We both Check on one another and it's like I have two houses. Now he wants more, and more from me is what I will do for my husband.
2006-08-14 14:08:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to pose a qustion for you, well maybe a couple... After 6 years you are not married. You clearly see marriage as the place to aim for, ultimately. So whats wrong with becoming this mans wife? If this is not what you want, why are you still with him? Sound to me like you have just realised this guy is not going to be your husband (resaons are obviously not known), but he is making those kind of 'noises' and you are uncomfortable about it. Why not talk it out together, sensibly, seriously and Honestly. Then agree to go away and each think about it and get back together a few days later to each talk about your decisions. Dont be doing what you dont want to, but be clear about what you want and find out what he wants. If it fits, it works. If it doesnt fit, then you have some stuff to sort.
2006-08-14 14:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by twerf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my view, that's really not how it should be. My partner and I both work, and we both contribute 50-50 to the housework as well. We cook for each other.
If your boyfriend is treating you like that now, and if you're letting him, it will only get worse when you're married. Imagine having children with him -- when you're exhausted, taking care of the kids, he will expect you to take care of him as well. Who needs that? Relationships should be a partnership. An EQUAL partnership.
All the best to you - decide what you want and don't settle for anything less than you deserve.
2006-08-14 14:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by epiCure 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to check the fluids ( and air) in your car and get it inspected. Then ask him to take out the trash, Please.
Ask him to do the dishes in one house or the other after you have cooked the meal.
His reaction will tell you, one way or another!
It may open your eyes to something you should think about!!!
2006-08-14 14:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by LN has3 zjc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you to behave like a wife, he needs to make you a wife. Until then, he can call himself lucky that you are doing so much for him...
SIX years? I think you know him pretty well, at least well enough to know if hes "the one" and if he'll commit. You KNOW!
2006-08-14 14:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by angiesdabomb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are wifely duties......young lady your starting this relationship on the wrong foot.....
duties are for work and school, not a relationship
2006-08-14 14:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They want to test out the waters before they fully commit. If the performance is bad, they have an out.
2006-08-14 14:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jon H 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He wants to make sure you are what he is looking for in a wife. If thats not what you want..then RUUUUUN
2006-08-14 14:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start screwing up things and be consistant. He'll stop asking you to do these things.
2006-08-14 14:13:26 · answer #8 · answered by Brandon 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dump him hes trying to change you
2006-08-14 14:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by gallow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because that is what you woman are for now do the dishes
2006-08-14 14:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by tattoo282001 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋