I am afraid that I am going to be a bad mother, because my mother was...any body have advice? is that true?

Answer 1

hi, u shouldn't think that for the reason u have to think that if Ur mom was a bad mom u don't want that for Ur child u should think about loving and care inf for that child also u can think because not everyone has to do what other do u have to do what your heart says and i am pretty sure u love that child so always think positive if not and the situation of your mom being bad is in your head and i think that still go to a counseler or to someone for help to help u forget o leave the past and to enjoy your child.

Answer 2

Read any of the books by Adele Faber and Eileen Mazlish. They are really good at talking about logical parenting. I like "How to Talk So Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk" Pick it up from the library, you won't be sorry.

You'll recognize what your mother did wrong and learn how to do it right. You'll enjoy parenting a whole lot more and have more confidence in yourself because you'll know how to handle a variety of situations. If you didn't have good role models, you can still learn this stuff.

Answer 3

If your mother was a bad mother and you recognize that she was, I would say you have a better chance of being a good mother. You know what you needed from your mom because she wasn't giving it to you, and with that, you will know what to give your child. But if you still have some reservations than try going to a parenting class- it will definatly not hurt.

Answer 4

There are plenty of things that when you are a parent now that you will catch yourself on..example is certain things I know my parents said to me that just drove me insane and I thought to myself what in the heck does that have to do with anything.........Well as a parent I start to catch myself starting to say the same thing..Now that's isn't to say on some occasions I don't end up saying things...depends on the situation..I guess what I am going to say if you are all ready worried about it chances are you need to keep that in your head and things will be just fine. There is no instructions with being a mother, give your mom a break..you will want one soon enough..

Answer 5

My sister and I had a very mean and selfish mom. and a neglectful father. We each had one child.She ended up being even worse of a parent then our mother was. Making all the same mistakes and even worse ones.I try to be the best mother I can and have done the oppsite of what my parents did. I think if you want to be differant then your mother. I am sure you will be fine.

Answer 6

It's not true unless you make it true. You can break the cycle, its up to you to make that happen. Start reading parenting books and parenting websites, watch shows like Nanny 911 and Super Nany, hang around women that are good mothers, take parenting classes and go to various workshops for parents to teach you how to be a good parent.

Answer 7

You aren't going to be a bad mother. Just don't do what your mother did that you didn't like. It isn't true at all. You do what you think is right.

Answer 8

my mother was no jewel - and i had the same fears - but i think whet helped me the most was the fact that i KNEW she was not a good mom....i think that was the key - me and my 3 sisters all raised our children completely different - but all of them turned out great.. i dont know the specifics of your child hood, but rely on friends and family, dont think that everything you hear and read is 100% fool proof - everyone has different parenting styles and skills - only you can take the information around you to turn yourself into the best mother YOU can be - dont compare your self to other parents - if your child is healthy and happy - your doing a great jb!!!

Answer 9

Well it depends on why you think your mother was a bad mother. A good thing to do is sit down with a specialist perhaps. Maybe depending on how bad your childhood was to go to a psychologist to make sure your issues won't come out in your parenting. Most likely your learn form her mistakes and do better. We learn through our parents mistakes.

most likely you'll make a good mother ....

Answer 10

I have known a lot of women that have thought that since their parents were bad that in turn they would be bad parents. But usually, the oppisate is true, they tend to be awesome parents because they know what not to do. They have seen how it affected them and they don't want that to happen for their child so they tend to watch and fix their problems before they are problems.