Christians, how important is it for the one you marry to be a christian/religious?

Answer 1

Extremely important!

Answer 2

It's extremely important. For a real Christian, you can't separate that part of yourself from your everyday life. It's who you are. If the person you are married to doesn't share that feeling, it can cause problems in every part of your life, from how you celebrate holidays, what you do in your time together, and especially in how you raise your children. In my marriage, it came down to my husband forcing me to choose between him and my Faith, and there was no contest. Any marriage requires a lot of compromise, because no couple will ever agree on everything, but it requires even more when you disagree on matters of Faith, and that's one area where it's hard to compromise, because sometimes you're asked to compromise, not just on little things, but on who you are. I'm not saying it can't be done, but it is very rare. I must also add, even if it meant being alone for the rest of my life, I would never consider marrying someone who didn't share my beliefs, to put God first in our lives.

Answer 3

My husband was a Christian, and it was very important to his family that he married a Christian. Even while we were dating I tried very hard to be a Christian too, just to make everyone happy. I went to Bible studies. I went to church every week with them. I did all the Christiany-type activities with his family. I have also extensively studied Christianity as part of my religion degree.

About a year after we got married, we both decided a Pagan path was better for us. (Of course we haven't told his family because we don't want to put up with the "you're going to hell" speeches, but otherwise we're very happy.)

Answer 4

It was incredibly important to me. Being a Christian means serving Jesus as Lord, every day, in my heart and soul and with my life. If the one I love doesn't do that, then what is driving his soul? And if what is driving our souls is not the same, then how can we truly be joined as one?

God always forbade his children of Israel to take pagan wives, because the pagan wives would turn the hearts of God's people from him. And in the New Testament he says not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers.

I think a Christian can make this decision, and it doesn't necessarily mean you're not really saved, but it does make me question how much that Christian loves her Lord, and it opens her up to a great many unnecessary problems in life. When you encounter hardships and trials, how can you lean on the Lord together? And when it comes down to it, can you bear seeing your loved one reject Christ day in and day out, knowing if he dies he will go to hell?

If you're already married, the Bible does say to stay married, and perhaps he will be won by your conduct. But that's not a license to get married to an unbeliever; it is simply instruction for someone already in that situation.

Answer 5

The Bible teaches that when we marry we are not to be unequally yokes together with unbelievers. So if you are a Christian, you should marry a Christian. If you are not, don't marry one who is. A 'mixed' marriage in this sense can create lots of problems down the road as you argue about your faith, what church to go to, how to raise the kids etc. If you want a happy marriage, marry someone who believes like you do.

Answer 6

You really need to be a part of a religious commitment with your spouse. It will create a conflict when the children are here.
Start with going to church together in each others places of worship and a new one the is just yours. Talk to your "mothers".

Yes, it is important. Trust me

Answer 7

For me it was very important. It is like two horses working in a harness and not pulling together. Or it would be day vs night. You have to have the same goals to get a long. God says we are to be equally yoked. And to be of the same faith.

Answer 8

I'm not a christian but I know they believe in something called 'not mixing the yolks'. Just a way to say that it wouldn't work out not having the same beliefs. But I think thats shite. The only reason it wouldn't work out is cause most relationships don't.

Answer 9

I think it is of very high importance. I couldnt marry a person who didnt believe in God or had a very different belief than me. I would hate to think of someone I love rejecting someone else I love. It would be as bad as if they hated my mother and wanted nothing to do with her.

Answer 10

Very important, we need to have the same morals. If you both know what God says about things, you're on the same page. If just one of you knows, the other one doesn't seem to pay too much attention. Been there done that. Too stressful.