I just recently started seeing my best friends bro who is 2 years older than me and i am 13. Ever since she has been a major jerk. i try to not say a lot to him while i am hanging out wit her - cuz im hanging wit her -not him. It is hard though. what should i do???
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2006-08-14 13:46:51 · 24 answers · asked by Tiger Babe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did the same thing around that age. She was jealous and thought I was coming over just to see him. Yet she still spent the night with me and we were involved in similar activities at school. They both ended up being liars and broke my heart. I found it hard to find a good friend. Losing a good friend is harder than losing a boyfriend most of the time. Both are sad, but in the end, true friends are the most important. I think that you should just try and talk to your friend. Tell her that you are her friend no matter what happens between you and her brother. She is probably worried about that as well as being worried about your motives for being around her now. So help her understand that she has nothing to worry about. She is trying to act that way to protect herself from being hurt by you, in case things go down b/w you and her brother. This is a very tough situation. You just have to make the best decision for yourself and let your feelings be known. You must help your friend understand or you may lose her.
2006-08-14 13:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons why she should have a problem with you dating her brother is:
A) Maybe she feels that if things go bad between you and her brother that things will go bad between you and her and she dosen't want to risk the friendship
(Please don't take these next one's offensively)
B) You're a hoe and she knows it and dosen't want her brother being involved in that, or
C) Her brother's a hoe and she dosen't want you to get hurt but dosen't know how to tell you because she feels like telling you would be backstabbing her brother.
If any of these are the reason then you have to understand where she's coming from. She's kinda caught in the middle of things because she dosen't know how to tell either of you the truth without hurting the other one.
The best thing I think you should do is sit down and talk to her and try to get to the bottom of everything. Ask her why she has a problem with you dating her brother. Most likely, if you're alone and no one's there to interrupt, she'll tell you.
If it bothers her that bad, then maybe you should consider breaking off the relationship. You're still very young, men are gonna come and go like money, but a true friendship only comes once in a lifetime.
2006-08-14 14:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by furever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? You've been hanging with a major jerk all this time? What on earth for?
If you like her brother more, then spend time with him more..... Keep your distance from this so-called best friend but a real jerk whoever she is girl....
Sorry, but I dont mean to be bitchy, I just wanted you to open your eyes....
You see, the answers to your questions are there all along... :)
Hmmmm.... by the way, at 13, arent you a little bit too young to be in this thing in the first place?
2006-08-14 13:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by sexy_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not likely at 13 that you and your best friend's brother will have a long term relationship. It's not impossible ... just not likely. If your friend is really your best friend then I know you don't want to make her uncomfortable. If I were you I would talk with my friend alone about how she is feeling about the situation. If she is utterly miserable about the situation then I'd have to break it off with her brother. But, maybe if you talk about it and show her that you care about her feelings then she might give you her blessings. You are ultimately the only person who can make the decision about what to do. Is it more important for you to have a relationship with her brother without your best friend or do you choose to have a best friend and nicely tell the brother that you really like him but you can't be his girlfriend because you do not want to hurt his sister. Good luck to you Dear and God bless.
It's important for you to know that your friend is probably feeling betrayed. She is hurting because she now will have to share you with her brother. She senses that you two would rather be talking than ignoring each other when she is around. Please just try to be sensitive to her feelings. She may not be being very nice at the moment but I feel it is because she is hurting and doesn't know how else to express her pain.
2006-08-14 14:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a talk with your best friend. Tell her what you don't like what she's doing, saying, etc. It's a surprise to me that ever since you've been hanging out with your best friend's bro, she's been a jerk. Maybe she's afraid that you and him will hook up and be in a relationship. She probably doesn't like that. It is always good to have a talk with her though. Then you'll know the truth behind what she's doing and thinking.
2006-08-14 13:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by *a∙e∙r∙i∙t∙h* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its understandable for her to be angry. It would be wierd. But what you have to do is explain to her that it will not affect your relationship with her at all. You can still be best friends, whether you're going out with her bro or not. But you should still talk to him when you're hanging out with her. When you're alone with him, ask him how his sister is about your relationship, and what she has told him. But if she is still a jerk after that, then just leave her alone to cool off and straighten out her feelings about it.
Good Luck!
2006-08-14 13:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why your best friend would feel odd...you're dating her brother so she feels she's competing for your time...and you're likely about the same age, which makes it weird for her to think of you and her bro in a 'romantic' way...
Romances come and go, especially at your age...but friendships can last lifetimes if you let them...don't let your infatuation with her brother damage your friendship...she's likely to be a part of your life a lot longer than he is...
2006-08-14 13:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has a problem with it talk to her about it let her know that in know way is her brother taking her position as best friend. Just talk with her, and also talk to him and let him know that even tho she is his sister she's still ur best friend. Communication can resolve most problems, give it a try
2006-08-14 13:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by shak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys come and go so if she is your best friend ask her if she has a prob with it if she does just break it off with her brother if she says its kool then ignore how she is acting she will get over it sooner or later
2006-08-14 13:58:39 · answer #9 · answered by lady jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, that's probably not a good idea. Obviously your best friend is going to get jealous of all the attention her brother gets. She wants to be just that: your best friend.
2006-08-14 13:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by pieninja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋