among majority white in my area ) ...having different culture thats not appealed to them or is it the personality that gets me far away from getting thier attention . its really exceptional to me ,that i never chatted to female since more than year (hell..did i come from mars ) , iam cute good looking and educated guy .however its just not appealed to me and sometimes iam wondering because iam very shy to approach as i always got the fear of rejection ....honstly i tried once and i really felt fool . i just got that from her with a cold blood and i freezed in my place trying to recall what she said . what is make it worse that even in my department i got one women who is married (what the bad luck ....) . is it the way to express it for them ( i tried and it wasn't that useful) , i even got the bad glance from them down the street ....or you must got that smile throughout the day
2006-08-14 13:33:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think racism is really much of an issue anymore. There are plenty of multi-racial couples. Maybe your shyness comes across that you are stuck up. Smile more, offer compliments - sincere ones. You will meet someone who will be happy to spend time with you.
2006-08-14 13:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is to do with your level of confidence.
I remember a line we used to use when I was out with a mate. We would eye up a couple of chicks, and I would go over to one and say 'Excuse me, but my friend is very shy. He thinks you are very attractive and would like to buy you a drink, What are you drinking?
It worked almost every time. The ice was broken, and we all had a laugh. My mate wasn't shy at all, but it was a funny and unusual starter. You need to improve your confidence level, and I think that means reducing your expectaion. Work on the basis that one in fifty is a good hit rate, and go out and ask fifty women. If you fail then I'll be very surprised, but you might have to adjust your hit rate to 1 in a 100. You watch. If you expect only one in 50 to say yes, then you wont be disappointed, and you'll ask lots more women.
Best of luck
2006-08-14 13:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry u r having this issue....i think everyone is afraid of rejection in one way or another. i am white, and i am a chick, and i dont have any problem dating guys of different races. i've actually dated more guys that are of hispanic backgrounds than white guys!!! where i live there are not many black people at all and it depresses my best friend bcause she is and can never find a nice guy who is of an african american background.....i say that u just need to go up to some pretty girl and ask her out. dont b scared of rejection...women smell fear a mile away...just b cool and b ur self and u will have the best luck in the world. no fear.
2006-08-14 13:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca Forever 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're not comfortable with yourself, dear, what makes you think people will relax and be comfortable with you? One good way to overcome your shyness is join a group, such as cooking, sailing, etc, with other people. When you are focusing on something you enjoy, others will relax with you. Good luck, dear.
2006-08-14 13:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
could be the culture of the area, could just be the type of women you are trying to approach, do you bathe regular. do you use mouth wash. and if you are educated why can't you spell?
2006-08-14 13:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to sound racist, but i like all kinds of guys. And as you can see by my avitar, Im white!! So i think it just might be the girls in your school.
2006-08-14 13:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by APgurl-NY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being black would not make me feel uncomfortable at all. but i find it hard to approach guys, id make eye contact with you and want you to pick up the signals and make conversation just be confident instead of expecting girls to feel uncomfortable. maybe i will get to meet you one day?
2006-08-14 13:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by roundtree 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the whole question was long and i had problems reading because I'm french but really. you need to find someone for yourself that likes you. maybe someone likes you but is shy
2006-08-14 13:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop stressin mate, your paranoia is creating problems that don't exist anymore.
2006-08-14 22:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by bishbashbosh11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come see me.
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2006-08-14 13:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋