When your man is busy all the time (for years), how can you tell the difference between your frustration (anger) and actually Falling Out of Love with him? You are always thinking "maybe I don't love him anymore" because you are so angry. He is doing his own thing "on your time" and never appreciated the support and understanding you have for him. He always has an excuse for not coming to see you (but he calls all the time). When you are together (which is once a week) he is too tired to do anything. So how long would you wait until you fall out of love ..... or are you already out of love because you are so angry?
2006-08-14 13:02:29 · 7 answers · asked by Lovetoloveyou 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some times it isn't worth waiting untill you have fallen out of love to end a relatiionship. Sometimes we have to end it even when we still love someone if it is mostly making us angry, or unhappy. Sounds as though you are just convenient for him and he isn't putting in the work. Weigh it up... when you are unhappy more often than happy then it is time to shake things up or split up- even if you still love them. Good luck,,, remember there is a bright exciting future around the corner just waiting for you... don't waste any more years hoping things will change... go for it girl! xxx good luck..
2006-08-14 13:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he just isn't holding up his end of the relationship and hasn't been for a while. Have things ever been better between you? Or has his behavior always been like this, but something you were willing to ignore when you WERE in love with him? More importantly, does he show interest in making more room for you in his schedule? Or does he deny that there's a problem and refuse to be any different?
If the answer to that last question is yes, well, things probably aren't going to get less frustrating for you, and it might be time to move on. Being less lovey-dovey is normal and expected as a relationship goes on, but feeling angry a lot isn't.
Before you do anything, though, you need to have a heart-to-heart with him and make that each of you understands what's going on for the other. Even if it only confirms things you already suspected, it's at least you'll know what the truth is.
2006-08-14 20:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a personal experience, I was the guy on the other end of the phone, happy to spend time on the phone talking but then not wanting to do much when we were together. It was a relationship of convenience. How does he respond when he leaves after a visit, happy, sad, etc.? I was in my relationship for longer than I should have been as it was nice to have a girlfriend, it was also part of my routine. That sounds a bit nasty perhaps but we are creatures of habit. I don't know if I have helped. You need to decide, are you going to miss the person or are you going to miss the relationship? I didn't want to lose my girlfriend but I wasn't particularly worried about losing the girl in particular.
2006-08-14 20:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by Just John 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my ex... ...so, I'll talk about me....
some circumstances diffferent but mostly my ex...
I don't know that love ever dies... ...I just can't be with her anymore..
I don't know that I was angry, disappointed, but not angry...
Never appreciated the support that I gave,,, that my ex...
My experience - she was calling all the time to make where I was so she could see someone else... a woman friend told me this 5+years after a divorce... ..makes sense to me..
How long did I wait... too long...
Maybe it'll work out good for all,,,
I've heard of it in hearsay, rumors, fables, fairy tales, etc..
2006-08-17 16:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by DM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop & really take the time to think is this what i want?..
a person can be frustrated as hell, but when its all said and done still love the person & want to be with the person.
have u talked about it? when couples go through b.s. feelings change. but ask urself overall how do i feel about him?the r.ship?
i'd say u fall out of love with someone over time of course it just doesnt happen. anger...yea could be a contributing factor. anger at the situation. tired of the same ol b.s., ur feeligns start to disapear more & more(falling out of love) there'll come a "day" when ur dont really care either way if he calls or doesnt. obvisouly uve settle in to the in frequent visits, and lack of doing anything BUT your still frustrated/angry. why continue to wait b/c if it's been going on for awhile it's going to continue...and ur going to get more upset & continue to fall out of love with him. & honestly i think it's more to it of course, but yea one or two things could make a person fall out of love with another....best of luck to you..:)
2006-08-14 20:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by REAL24/7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The day you can't tell him that you love him.
When he tells you that he loves you, if you hesitate or you just say "me too" instead of "I love you too"
that would be a sign for me to know that I am not in love with him any longerr. But that's just me.
2006-08-14 20:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by Shizuka*Kokoro 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
persue your happiness. if you have to ask its already to late.once a week? find some one that wants to be with you!
2006-08-16 19:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by sufferingnomad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋