hi im bothered at the moment very much by lonlyness and solitude. its so despairing?

Question

and i dont have any friends other than the few aquaintances on the net. so i cannot just access anybody or phone anybody except my mum and dad and ive already spoke to them tonight and said goodnight to them, i live on my own in my own place, flat im a 29 year old male, i battle mental health problems long term, im on state benefits, because im not right enough to work. i dont own alot of material possessions so other than the computer, wen im on my own, i wonder what to do with myself in my flat, an i just ' mope ' around ive not had much success with girls on the computer ,i cant make a connection,i keep getting rejected. i cant just go out because i have high anxiety and panic issues that are overwhelming. i made a connection with a girl in canada that i managed to sustain for a year, but now it seems to be tapering off, & ive deleated her off my messenger list because i thought she loved me, she told me she did, & now she dont talk to me anymore, or shes at work etc can any 1 help?

Answer 1

rj2 gave you some first hand advice, about giving your life over to Jesus...when you have Jesus in your life, you are never alone..He is always there to guide you and to carry you through...Maybe you don't have faith, but seek and you will find peace in your heart and mind you never knew before...He never abandons those who call on Him...He is always with us and always will be...he can forgive us and forgive those who have abused and harmed us and protect us from any more evil...Evil does not overcome evil..only good overcomes evil...God Bless my friend

Answer 2

Hi, loneliness is a terrible feeling but there are alot of things you can do to feel better. If you suffer from agoraphobia and can't leave your house, see a doctor because there are alot of medications that can help you with that problem. Volunteering will give you an opportunity to help others and you will feel so much better yourself. Getting a pet is a very good idea. Go to the animal shelter, you will not only save a life you will gain a loyal companion. Take up a hobby, photography would be very good for you. Go out and instead of concentrating on your panic, focus on different things that you see outside and take pictures. You can write a book or poetry. And last but not least pray. You are never alone God is always with you, talk to him. God bless you, your friend Maddygirl

Answer 3

I understand how you feel. Why did you move out on your own? understand that you're 29 and do not want to live with mum and dad anymore but it seems that it would be better for you to have people around. If you get state benefits, then I assume you are receiving/going to therapy as well.

Why don't you pick up a hobby? Painting, or something artistic if that strikes your fancy. Otherwise, video games are a good waste of time. lol. They are very entertaining in my opinion. Perhaps you could watch movies, or keep a journal. It might be fun to get a pet, perhaps a dog since they are always active and fun to play with. I hope this helps and I hope you are feeling better.

Answer 4

Sorry I can't help.

Have you thought about volunteering? If you need something to do with your time, that's a great way to do it. Besides you'd be able to get out and make some friends. It's not healthy to sit at the computer all the time, you limit yourself and your ability to interact with others. I realize you say you've got some issues, have you spoke to your doctor about it? There are great drugs out there that can help in that regard.

Otherwise I'd say take up knitting or reading a book.

Answer 5

'Sorry to hear about that. I say that you don't try to make so many friends online, I mean, yeah, it's easy to do it and stuff-but you should get some real life friends. Like friends you can actually hang out with. You can meet these friends at a group-like maybe join a club or something with people who like what you like. You can meet people at church or join a sports like baseball or something.
When you feel as if you're gonna mope or something, work to overcome your high energy. Maybe you could build a birdhouse or something in your garage. Or maybe you've always wanted to write poetry or paint-just do something like that. Take up a new hobby.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Skunk, just when times seem terrible, things change. The cycle changes. It goes from bad to good, and good to bad. That's life, you'll see.

Do not despair. Take a walk around the neighborhood and say "hi" to a few people. At this hour, it might just be the salesperson behind the counter at the convenience store. SOMEONE should be willing to talk.

I wish you the best.

Answer 7

Hi there, I'm not sure what you can do really. Maybe if you got out more, and tried to be more social you can meet new people. there are a lot of people out there that will have the same interests as you, its easy to find them but you have to go out and meet others. About a girlfriend, I don't know what to say but...dont look so hard it will come to you eventually.

Answer 8

if u're on meds and u still feel overwhelmed by panic maybe u need to change medications or up ur current dosage. talk to ur dr about ur symptoms asap. and if u're not on meds, what r u waiting for? that's a horrible way to live! in order to have friends u need to make friends and that involves going out but u can't cause u have panic attacks. are u shy, also? if so, then talk to a therapist, but first get help for u panic-attacks. what u're feeling is by no means normal; espec. if u're already on meds.

Answer 9

I don't know where you stand in the spiritual realm,,,But i finally gave my life over to Jesus over 18 years ago...im 41 now. T he Lord will never leave you or forsake you Hebrews 13:5. He knows your needs and can give you someone who truly cares for you. He did me

Answer 10

You can install skype on your computer and make phone calls there .... pc to pc or pc to phone. Is a freebie so may want to check it out. Is found in google. All you need is a microphone.