What kind of message should I send him?

Question

My bf (M)and I hooked up this June. He called my bff, told her that he liked me, then she phoned me, told me that, and I said that i'd love to be his gf.This summer we were apart and kept intouch my sms.Today he called me and we had a strange coversation (if you can call it that cuz we barely talked. I am kind of shy and he is not a big talker so...
M:Hi, hon. How are you?
Me:Fine.Where are you?
M:at a party.
Me: Oh.
(Akward silence)
M:so i'll see u at school?
Me:ya.
M:Bye.
Me:Bye.
I hated our convo cuz i could've asked him whoes party,etc,but i didn't.To make things worse,he used to my bff's bf,so he opens up to her more than to me. She broke up with him.And whenever the 3 of us go somewhere,they are usually talking the most cuz she is a chatterbox. What kind of sms should i send him? I want it to be original and show him that i love him a lot and make up for the conversation. I want something special-not the usual i love u and miss u that i usually send him. Any ideas

Thanks for the advice! I know Jennifer it is weird that he opens up to her more. Actually, at the beginning of the month, he sent me a message: Should we break up before the school year?Are you and Monica (my so-called bff's name) fighting? Because I sent her a message and she didn't answer back." I thought what the hell? Why does he have to consult her for everything. So I was like, if you want to break up just tell me so i can know. And he was like, no i don't want to break up. I love you a lot and if we break up, I'll get only F on the tests."

I am just wondering, does he feel as bad as me after that conversation?

Answer 1

Don't worry too much about it. He was at a party, seems like he thought of you and called. Nothing wrong with that, seems like he wanted to hear your voice or something. Look, big conversation isn't always a big part of a relationship. Different people communicate in different ways. I think he open up more to your bff because they were together before and he knows her better. Its been what, almost two months for you guys, seems like he's not ready to open up to you yet. Don't stress, if he really likes you wants to be with you he'll open up when he feels like it. In the mean time just be there. Instead of sending an sms why not call the guy, atleast you'll here his voice and it'll be more personal instead of an sms. Besides you'll get to say whatever you want and he'll know you mean it by the inflections in your voice.

Answer 2

I'm thinking you should just relax. It's too early to worry so much in this relationship. Sometimes conversations are short which is not always a reflection on how the relationship is going. You need to look at the relationship and figure out if you are okay with him having a very close female friend. If you can't, then, I'd get out of the relationship. Also, ask questions during the conversations to continue it - like, 'how was the party...' I wouldn't send an sms. I'd wait until you spoke again. It appears like you are very needy too soon.

Answer 3

Maybe he thinks that you are shy and astranged from him and don't want to have a conversation. You need to show him that you're an outgoing girl, and that you can indulge in conversation too. There are plently of things to talk about, but only certain and apporeite times to talk about them. Try going out to dinner and a movie with him alone, just the two of you. Don't do awqured silences, and if one seems like its about to errupt, say something random or just ask if he's enjoying his time being with you. Don't bring your cell phone, leave it in the car ior turn it on silent, because that's the number one thing that ruins a date is having someone call that person 100 times during the date, and having someone tag along (in your case) and him ending up paying more attention to her than to you.

Answer 4

I don't mean to be rud but why does he open up more to your friend. I just think there is something wrong with that. Just be yourself and make small talk just keep him guessing you should IM him something like ( Hi what have you been up to) and if he says what are you up to ( nothing much here but thier was a fight beetwwen these to boys) but any way nothen else) So you got any plans or so) And so when you run out of things say( what do you want to talk about) if he says i don't know talk about what he likes like sports and stuff. Well gtg

Answer 5

This seems like typical High school/ MIddle school relationship. Be forward, not shy either. Tell him, I am you girlfriend I feel like you don't care to talk to me and confide in me with things. Let him know he can trust you and come to you with anything. If oyu are going to be sharing time together as bf & gf, you both need to share thoughts with each other. tell him you care about him, and want to be closer. Then the mushy i love you stuff.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Are you sure he is over the other 1? Try to do the silent treatment on him. Make him do the wondering. If he wants to go out telling you might have to cancel your other plans. This worked for me, been married to him for 20 years, I love him more today then yesterday.

Answer 8

Don't call him or email him or even send any text, let him sweat it out for a bit. I know it will be hard but guys need to know that you are not at their disposal when they need you. From years of experience don't chase him let him do the chasing and if he does not presue you then move on and find one that wants you for who you are.

Answer 9

I dont think so, if he truly loved you he wouldnt be talking to jennifer so much.he would talk to you like he truly misses you, andthe other, why call you from a party when he knew you couldnt be there with him.l would think he would have called and said l didnt go to the party because you cant be with me.

Answer 10

I would get him alone and tell him that you are kind of silent when it comes to conversation and that you want to say more to him, but sometimes can't find the words.

If you can get him to help you speak your mind, you will learn how to have a more fulfilling conversation.