do men (husbands) 'grow up' after a baby is born?
2006-08-14 12:41:50 · 19 answers · asked by animal_mother 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
fyi...i am not preggers nor do i have any kids. i don't want any because i'm worried my husband will not ever act more mature, quick nit-picking, nagging, etc. just wondered if babies change that...!
2006-08-14 12:55:04 · update #1
Sometimes it does change them for the better, but if things aren't good now don't expect them to change later. If you don't want to be a single mother with a husband ( yes this really does happen) then I would do some serious talking before pursuing this any further. For the record having a baby is very rewarding it is full of challenges and a lot of hard work. It's best if you both know where you stand on this subject. good Luck!!
2006-08-14 14:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think a baby will make him grow up, don't try it. Some men really do grow up when their first kid arrives, but those are guys who really wanted to be dads in the first place. I am thinking right now of my brothers and a close friend of mine. Having kids made them even better men, but they were pretty good to begin with. A little immature maybe, but at heart they were responsible people. A man who is truly a big baby will be jealous of the baby, and act worse than ever!
2006-08-14 16:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do and some don't. I have seen some men that just don't give a crap about kids and their wives. On the other hand, I have seen men that change the minute their baby is born. They start to be so caring and start respecting their wives a lot more.
2006-08-14 13:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by Cali03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know! I am 34 weeks (8 months) so my baby is not here yet to tell for sure., but every since I got pregnant my man has been acting a little more grown up and helps me with everything! Maybe ur man will see the child as his wake up call...but who knows right??? good luck
2006-08-14 12:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_kaylie_on_the_way 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! They never do. I only have a son (4) and everytime I'me with my friends, I always tell them that I got to go and pick up the kids. My husband sometimes is another 4 year old I have to deal with.
2006-08-14 13:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the idea is to have a baby to change someone.......don't because it won't work. People will only change if they actually want to change and baby coming into the picture may not help them make that decision in fact it may only make things worse. My advice is to really talk to your spouse and try and be intune to each other's needs. It is not fair to bring a child into the picture otherwise....Good Luck!
2006-08-14 13:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its more likely that baby will expose all weaknesses, in the cult of child first men are expected to end their relationship with the mother and just be a ox ploughing the financial field for the new mother, you are number 1 in the females life and now you are number 33 after the baby, washing, baby food, cleaning on and on
if your relationship is shaky to start with it is doomed
2006-08-14 12:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by brinlarrr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men do but most don't. They even are jealous of the baby and try to get your attention more than usual. Some mothers don't grow up either.
2006-08-14 12:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately I don't think so. My baby just turned 6 months and I think my hubbie is actually growing into more of a child than an adult!
2006-08-14 12:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only difference between men and boys is the price of their toys
2006-08-14 12:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋