Is it because we are lame? Is it because we are boring? Is it because we have never been in jail?
Is it because we are educated and can have a good conversation without swearing?
Is it because we treat them like ladies instead of roughing them around like ho's?
Why is being a well-educated man such a handicap when dating?
2006-08-14 12:35:03 · 29 answers · asked by tlakkamond 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's less about "bad vs good" boys, and more about confidence and assertiveness. The bad boys you talk about often have a confidence about them that a lot of women, myself included, find attractive, and they go for what they want. Don't get me wrong, I don't want a truly "bad boy," but I do want to feel like I'm with a man, and not a boy. I've always lived by the rule that I don't want to be with someone that I had to protect or could walk all over. In the end, we want a nice boy with bad boy qualities (i.e. confidence) that makes us feel wanted and respected, not a thug with a criminal record.
2006-08-14 12:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by faolan22 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I love nice guys but it always seems as if, I get tangled up with a bad guy. I dont know but being well educated for me has been such a handicap when it came to dating for me. You are not along. I am going through it as well.
2006-08-14 14:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Hope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL I have often wondered the same thing. I'm 42 and I have been living with the nice guy curse forever. All women don't go for the bad guy but it's funny how the ones that do complain about how their treated. You know how Many times I have heard "he's so nice, I just want to be his friend" Now being 42 and single this is what I find allot, the women are sick of being treated like crap, their bitter about it, and think all men are pieces of shi*. So here I sit on yahoo answers (alone) lol
Damn now I'm depressed!!!!!!
lol
So I guess my answer is....I have no idea....hang in there
2006-08-14 12:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by serfblues 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a fine line between being nice & being a pushover. I don't need a badboy, I need a man. Women love men with self confidence. That is the most attractive attribute in men, I think.We want someone who is secure in themselves and won't just be a yes-man. I want someone who loves me, but doesn't need me. Plus, the chase is part of the intrigue @ the beginning of a relationship, so always leave them wanting more. Remember people are very contrary and we want what we can't have. So, even though it seems childish, we all have to play "The Game " @ the beginning. Play a little hard to get & the ladies will be chasing you down.
2006-08-22 11:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by lacopperphx 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
being a well-educated man in school and bussiness does not mean you have some comen sense that's maybe why woman dont like men like that. it is true there's a lot of woman out there want some rough love like they want rough sex, man treat them like ho's as you said so if you have some comon sense i dont think that's the problems at all , good luck dude
2006-08-14 12:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by kevin n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not might want to be abusive. women human beings love cocky douchebags in spite of the undeniable fact that... even in spite of the undeniable fact that their interpretation of that function is "self assurance." From what i have heard, women human beings don't love meek passive adult men -- i.e., your generic "tremendous guy." they don't favor a guy who will positioned her up on a pedestal and do inspite of she needs (that one particularly confuses me, as i ought to like to have a lady who become that way in the route of me). They curiously favor a guy who isn't afraid to communicate his ideas or disagree jointly with her or inspite of. a guy who can "take value." i do not comprehend. It would not make a lot experience to me, yet each and every time i have considered this problem presented up, those are many times the failings I listen human beings affirming.
2016-12-06 13:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by tatu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a handicap, but if the girl you are dating maybe is not as smart or you speak condesending to her withour realizing it then it could be.
Just be yourself only find other things to talk about like the weather or news? It doesn't have to always be about education, make it fun....
2006-08-14 12:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by Farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heheh Nice guys are very sweet and all, but girls kind of look for an edge, they like the way nice guys treat them, but they want a little more they want a little bit of edge, you know a little suprise. Most nice guys don't make the first moves, and most girls want guys to do the first move. Its hard to explain...
2006-08-14 12:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know about other ladies but I do like nice guys cuz it shows they know how to treat a girl and they haven't been convicted for it
2006-08-14 12:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by K.L.C. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely prefer "nice guys" to bad ones. Nice guys do make a better bf, they stick around longer and also tend to be much more romantic too! Hang in there, there's plently of nice (with a little naughty) girls out there.....you're just not looking right!
2006-08-14 12:51:33 · answer #10 · answered by Ronique 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋