Does he still love me??

Question

We dated for 4 1/2 years, and have been seperated for a year and 5months,We see eachother often and whenever we do we always end up making love, i try to resist but because i still love him so much i give in.I would do anything to have him in my arms and back in my life!!Im still hopelessly inlove with him and i told him but he just said i should move on.
Ever since we broke up he became a party animal, he is always out getting drunk and just dont care bout anything anymore!!! I still love him like crazy, but i cant keep hurting myself like this.
What do i do? Does he still love me or just wants to have sex with me cos he knows i cant resist him? Is there a possibility that he is not over me? Could it be his pride/friends?
Help cos being without him kills me!!!

Answer 1

Sadly, he just isn't into you. He has moved on, and was totally and seriuosly honest with you, when he looked in to your face and told you to do the same. What are you waiting for? This man has made it VERY clear. Of course, he is coming back around, just to make sure you are "still there", and to use you. That's what it is, he is USING you. You, on the other hand, are enjoying every cherished minute you can have with him, because you are still so much in love. You have not been able to take off the glasses that keep him looking attractive. If you did, you would surely see someone that is not worth your time, your love, and certainly, your intimacy. You are enabling him to use you, by accepting his offers of attention, no matter how great or small. One of you should have respect for YOU. Since it isn't him, it HAS to be YOU. You will need to cut all ties with him, even if that means changing your number, relocating, whatever....make it as clear to him, as he did to you: I HAVE MOVED ON. You will most surely need to grieve, and rightly so. He has strung you along all this time. Go ahead, and cry. Get it all out. Allow yourself some breathing time, and do not get involved with anyone else during this time. You'll only end up hurting someone else too. Keep your friends and family around, for support. Keep occupied, and learn to be your own best friend. When you find that you are happy with yourself, others will see that, and will be attracted to you, for that. As every sun sets, you will find that it will be easier. Wish him all the best, always have class, and let him go. By giving him his freedom, you are also setting yourself free from someone who was holding you down and back. Best wishes.

Answer 2

I've been in the same type of relationship once. It is so difficult to seperate such ties once they've been established. But at this point he may care about you in a distant way, especially when he's letting you knwo that it is okay to move on. The sex issue is just that. Sex. You are opening yourself emotionally every single time you do this and for him it is merely a convenience thing. Trust me if he still loved and cared about you, you wouldn't be asking this question. He parties because he's trying to get back in the swing of things, and on the worse care trying to forget. Either way you are being erased from the picture. He's moving on. I wish you the best in your endevour. Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you're in this situation, sweety.

I know it's hard to realize what's really going on in the situation when you're really involved in it. As an outsider and from what you said - he's just using you for sex.

I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but it sounds like that's the case. He knows you'll have sex with him, he's taking advantage of your feelings. If he really wanted to be your boyfriend, he would tell you.

Think about it, he gets all he wants - regular sex, no attachments, and he can party all he wants.

He sounds way to immature for you to be wasting your time on him.

I'm sorry :(

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Your words of despair sound almost identical to those of a couple of addicts with whom I've corresponded. You know the answer to the question of whether he loves you. You are a piece for him, plain and simple. Take a look at this site:
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Answer 6

He might still love you, and he might not... maybe he just felt like he needed time to be single.. but he doesn't quite want to let you go either. by the sound of it, he's just using you for sex. se if u can't meet up in a nutral place, and not have sex, and then see if he still wants to be your friend.. that should tell you if he still loves u or not, cuz if he doesn't even want to be your friend, then it WAS just about the sex, and no he doesn't still love you

Answer 7

I was with mine for 6 and same thing happened. The best thing for you to do if to not talk to him at all. That'll ease the problem. The more you see him, the more you're going to want him and the harder it'll be to get him off your mind. Go out and have a girls night out and maybe talk to other guys. If you're not ready to date I suggest you do some thing to keep your mind distracted (it worked for me)

Answer 8

well you keep giving him sex so i would say it is sex, if he says for you to move on then move on. thier is always a possibility theirhe not over you but then again maybe not.
get over him and move on now or you will move on. Get over it and snap out of it

Answer 9

listen hun he dont love you to what i understand by what you wrote he just wants the booty